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Topic: Absolutely delusional ILs
Member # 43131
Posted: 8:44 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014
We live x-country from ILs, thank the good lord. I have never seen eye to eye with them, though we try to maintain civility. It has been 6 weeks since d day. H tried to minimize it with them, but I told them every gory detail. Needless to say, the last 6 weeks have been hell. H moved back in this past weekend, and we are giving it our best effort. But 2 weeks ago the depression got so bad that I checked myself in to a hospital for 4 days. Anyway, yesterday my ILs called and suggested we fly our family of 5 out to see their new house. It has a pool! Whoopee! They said they'd pay for half of the airfare. First off, this is in no way economically feasible for us. Something they know. Second, really? We are fighting for our marriage, our lives! This is not the first time my h's addiction (manifested as pills, and now an affair) has nearly destroyed our family. We are fighting just to survive. And they want to show off their new house with its fancy pool? That they paid cash for? Are you flipping kidding me? Like nothing is going on with us. I just find the level if denial and delusion to be almost unbelievable.
I would understand (though not agree) if they expressed some concern for us and that was the reason for the desire to see us, but that was not expressed AT ALL.
Just venting. Thankfully H is in the same page as me.
"We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means 'I survived'." -Chris Cleave
Posts: 343 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Philadelphia
Member # 24719
Posted: 8:59 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014
my MIL is the same way... of course she's a serial cheater, so... Plus, she blames me for fwh's As. And is still friends with EAP. Even recently told my H to call EAP, because she could really use a friend.
She is appalled that that would make me mad...
Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen
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