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HeBrokeVows posted 5/19/2014 20:54 PM

So since Friday's horrible interaction with WH, daughter has been bed wetting the past three nights. Even twice a night. She's almost 5 and I know bed wetting isn't unusual and she would at night every 10-14 days or so or longer. She even had an accident during the day Saturday. She's been potty trained since 2.5. Never accidents.

I called pediatrician and spoke with nurse. Updated her on WH bullying and intimidating me in front of kids and that we are divorcing. She calmed me and said make sure i do don't shame her. Which I'm not at all (the asshole used to because looking back she woke him up when he was waking up early to drive to the whore and his daughter interrupted this). Just extra reassurance and love and letting her know its ok and normal. And she also suggested walking down target aisle and picking out big kid pull ups. She liked that. I also bought pads to stick on sheets. She decided she didn't want pull ups at bedtime but instead the pad. That's fine. Whatever she wants.

Any other insights or ideas? Thanks

justinpaintoday posted 5/19/2014 21:35 PM

I think your doing the right thing. Just keep building her up and letting her know how amazing and special she is. She likely is struggling emotionally as well. Kids definetely process stress differently. Just love the snot out of the kid and she'll know mom isproud and that will go miles.

GingerAle posted 5/19/2014 21:39 PM

((((HeBrokeVows & daughter))))

You are such a wonderful, sensitive mom. I think you are handling this perfectly.

WeepingBuddhist posted 5/20/2014 06:52 AM

Although there is a huge amount of stress in your home, most children who have bed wetting are experiencing intestinal distress. When they do X-Rays and realize they are well, "full". If keeping track of her bowel movements isn't something you typically do, you may not have even noticed and stress has a huge physical component and can constipate people just as quickly other factors. Make sure she is getting a lot of water to drink (you, too!!!) and try to get as many high fiber foods and fresh veg onto her plate. I know it's more work but it could be really good for you both. ((Broke))

HeBrokeVows posted 5/20/2014 14:23 PM

Thanks for the support and advice! Always appreciated here!