I'm almost 2 years divorced, and I can say that although it's taking me a lot longer than I had hoped, I finally feel like the roller coaster is slowing down. I know I am not off of it - my life is too intertwined with my ex still - but my emotions are less dictated by my past and I catch myself thinking more about my present. Progress!
DId many of you find it was a very gradual shift of thoughts and feelings? It's like a slow realization that, hey! I'm doing pretty well these days! I know that it never stays on such an even keel, and I know that I will have some rough days still, but I hope I can accept that and not dwell on it.
There are some comments that I've read here on SI that have become like mantras to me, to accept that my old life is gone, my husband is gone and the man I thought he was never existed. That saying is so very true: sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see.
I'm not sure how to thank such a collective group of people but...thank you! Sometimes I look at us all and think how strange it is - we are so different but we are all trying to survive the same journey. No one would ever accuse me of being touchy-feely, but I am amazed at the connection I feel with others on this site. So, again, thanks!!!!