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renee21 posted 5/19/2014 23:10 PM

I wish we could press charges on these fucktards for being selfish and for the emotional damage they do to their own children.

In an alternate universe I would run both him and his gutter pig over with my car but in this one I will come here and vent instead.

I came home to a very depressed DD16 and seeing the sadness in her face just makes me want to hurt him. He actually asked me if I was blaming her depression on him.

Hmm...let me see FT...she never had it before you fucking leveled her life, ya think it might be that coupled with the fact you live with your whore and her kids....take pics smiling having a good ole time on the gutter pig parents boat with her and her kids...

While we clean up the mess you left us with...bills, messed up house, not knowing where we are going to live, what we are going to do.

Her first counseling appointment is soon. I feel so bad watching a happy mellow kid struggle with something like depression because her father wanted to be a selfish bastard. I do believe they are going to suggest medication.

So I think that would be an affirmative that your dumb ass is to blame fucktard chameleon.

Harriet posted 5/20/2014 00:46 AM

(((renee21 and daughter)))

I'm so sorry for what he is putting you through. I'm glad she has you there for support. My ex is getting better about spending time with his kids (now that the thrill of the affair has lost its bloom), but before then I tried extra hard to make our home and our time very special to make up for the loss of their father. I made it HIS loss - he is the one missing out. My kids and I are closer than ever.

My DD is also 16. She has learned to rely on me for her sense of family, but it's a hard age.

gonnabe2016 posted 5/20/2014 01:20 AM

He actually asked me if I was blaming her depression on him.

Yes, you douchebag, I am....and if you are not the *actual* cause then your shitty behavior sure as shit is a proximate cause!

I've got *nothing* for you here advice-wise. I have NO idea how to deal with this. Me and my kids put our family dog to sleep a month ago (kids were devastated), stbx was *out of town*, and 2 days later all kinds of pictures surface of him having a grand time in Napa during the *family dog's passing event.* Did my kids see those pictures? You bet your ass they did since they are *friends* with him. Have I said anydamnthing about it? Nope. And unfortunately, they haven't said anything about it either.

Disordered stbx-spouses are the *worst* type of people to deal with.

Do what needs to be done in order to help your DD through this time. If she needs medication for a while, then so be it. It doesn't have to be forever. However, I am really anti-meds, so if the meds are suggested, I would strongly suggest having a convo with the IC about *why*....just to be sure that the IC has all the relevant info and whatnot.

idontknowwhy5 posted 5/20/2014 15:37 PM

It's impossible for me to understand how a cheater could hurt their own kids by cheating and breaking the family apart.

I enjoyed your revenge dream. I had entertained (briefly) the idea of mailing naked pictures of the other man to his coworkers, but I would never really do something like that. It's probably illegal anyway.

GreatRoleModel posted 5/20/2014 15:47 PM

I wish we could press charges on these fucktards for being selfish and for the emotional damage they do to their own children.

AMEN!!!

dmari posted 5/20/2014 16:31 PM

I wish this too, renee21!! If their selfishness ONLY affected adults ~ so be it. But when if dramatically impacts THEIR OWN CHILDREN, it should be a crime. Unfortunately, the ones that pay the price of the crime are the children.

I too have had to watch my once easy going happy go lucky DS15 slip into depression. He is on medication and it has helped but it isn't a magic pill. There is so much work to do in therapy.

(((((renee21 and DD16)))))

Guinness23 posted 5/21/2014 03:48 AM

Topic: If only being selfish was a crime

...then we would have to lock up the FEW GOOD people in this world. Being a lying, conniving, narcissistic POS is something above and beyond just infidelity. Its a no holds barred way of life with TOO MANY people. How freaking sad.

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