Who wants to bet it was the stupid AP? I sure hope so, showing her true colors. He knows I see everything phone calls and texts. He told me about the first two texts but then left for work. I've blocked three phone numbers from her so far and will block more. Bxtch. And he's not far behind.
Hanging on but almost gone. Such a sad state of affairs we have to lower ourselves to.
(((notgoneyet)))
On an aside, I was wondering if you could explain a bit more about what you meant with verizon? I'm Australian so never heard of it and would love to be able to see all WH texts and calls!
That is how I found about the last ap and confronted him. We are now in mc and ic but I'm just biding my time. I am ambivalent and am working on myself and becoming a stronger individual.
In the meantime, he has gone nc right away and I check to make sure. She was a former employee and has showed up in our town 50 miles away from where she lived two times since nc that I know of. One time I ran into her in our grocery store. Very small town. He claims he doesn't know where she went but I sense a stalker. I hope so because she is nuts. Divorced the same guy 3 times.
I would love to have a revenge affair but can't bring myself to do it so I either will stay for our grown family and grandchldren or if I get strong enough leave.
Either way he will find out who he really was involved with. ha ha
Divorced the same guy 3 times
Tell your WH to not engage with *unknown* number people. If they don't leave a message about an appointment confirmation or a donation request, then WHO GIVES A SHIT? Maybe something is *wrong* with me, but if I receive a call from a number that I don't recognize.....I totally don't go into a frenzy trying to figure out *who* it was and *why* they called me.
Make your WH start blocking these numbers. He needs to take a pro-active role in this and stop hiding under your skirt.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
I could see calls and texts too through the phone company, so my ex took his affair underground using the chat feature on a scrabble game him and OW downloaded and played together. None of that shows up on the phone bill, and I certainly wasn't suspicious of a freaking scrabble game..
Just sayin, if your WH *knows* how you are tracking him, then he may find another way.. And they could be communicating quite often with a lot going down that you don't know about. For example, maybe they are communicating another way and she's pissed he isn't leaving you for him, and so she's just trying to piss him off and get him into trouble knowing you can see the messages and calls..
I'm guessing this is why if you're trying to R, it's best not to reveal all your sources.. Seems to me that most waywards and their affair partners try to continue communicating after D-Day without the betrayed knowing..
And FWIW, I agree with Gonna. I don't go calling back unknown numbers. They can either leave me a message or not. Seems fishy to me.. I hope he's being honest with you..
And please don't have a revenge affair. If you want someone else, just tell your WH that and divorce him. Don't go sleeping with someone else just to piss him off. It's not healthy for you, and you can't just assume it won't hurt the person you have the affair with.. Stay true to yourself. If you aren't the type of person that would cheat, don't start being one now..
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
