"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

notgoneyet posted 5/19/2014 23:35 PM

I can read all wh texts (thanks verizon). He got a call when he was out of range today and called the number back. That person texted him and asked who he was. He said his name and they replied My bad, oh sonofabitchen (his name). He texted back who are you and they said, this is sonofabitch (his name) alright and then nothing.

Who wants to bet it was the stupid AP? I sure hope so, showing her true colors. He knows I see everything phone calls and texts. He told me about the first two texts but then left for work. I've blocked three phone numbers from her so far and will block more. Bxtch. And he's not far behind.

Hanging on but almost gone. Such a sad state of affairs we have to lower ourselves to.

Jrazz posted 5/19/2014 23:52 PM

Ugh gross. I'm glad he told you about it. Block, crickets... that's really the best thing as long as it looks like he truly has nothing to do with the occurrence.

(((notgoneyet)))

RomanticInnocenc posted 5/20/2014 00:04 AM

Notgoneyet I'm so sorry you have to deal with that crap. I don't understand why some people just never grow up!

On an aside, I was wondering if you could explain a bit more about what you meant with verizon? I'm Australian so never heard of it and would love to be able to see all WH texts and calls!

notgoneyet posted 5/20/2014 00:21 AM

Romatic - I am the "owner" of our verizon wireless account so control all of our features. I have long been able to see calls and texts but wh was wise enough not to make late night calls or too many to his newest ap. Well little did he know that I signed up for web text where I can read all texts sent or received.

That is how I found about the last ap and confronted him. We are now in mc and ic but I'm just biding my time. I am ambivalent and am working on myself and becoming a stronger individual.

In the meantime, he has gone nc right away and I check to make sure. She was a former employee and has showed up in our town 50 miles away from where she lived two times since nc that I know of. One time I ran into her in our grocery store. Very small town. He claims he doesn't know where she went but I sense a stalker. I hope so because she is nuts. Divorced the same guy 3 times.

I would love to have a revenge affair but can't bring myself to do it so I either will stay for our grown family and grandchldren or if I get strong enough leave.

Either way he will find out who he really was involved with. ha ha

Ostrich80 posted 5/20/2014 01:28 AM

Omg why don't.I.have Verizon...
Yea its prob.ow...how low can she go, using multiple phones really? She needs a new hobby

gonnabe2016 posted 5/20/2014 01:42 AM

Divorced the same guy 3 times

OK. So I can see divorcing the same guy twice. Get pissed, divorce the loser, then fall for his bullshit, remarry him, find out he's the same loser that you divorced in the first place.....divorce him again. But a 3rd time????
She's definitely sharpening her knives on oak leaves.

Tell your WH to not engage with *unknown* number people. If they don't leave a message about an appointment confirmation or a donation request, then WHO GIVES A SHIT?
Maybe something is *wrong* with me, but if I receive a call from a number that I don't recognize.....I totally don't go into a frenzy trying to figure out *who* it was and *why* they called me.

Make your WH start blocking these numbers. He needs to take a pro-active role in this and stop hiding under your skirt.

ButterflyGirl posted 5/20/2014 08:53 AM

Just as a warning I give every time I can, CHEATERS FIND A WAY.

I could see calls and texts too through the phone company, so my ex took his affair underground using the chat feature on a scrabble game him and OW downloaded and played together. None of that shows up on the phone bill, and I certainly wasn't suspicious of a freaking scrabble game..

Just sayin, if your WH *knows* how you are tracking him, then he may find another way.. And they could be communicating quite often with a lot going down that you don't know about. For example, maybe they are communicating another way and she's pissed he isn't leaving you for him, and so she's just trying to piss him off and get him into trouble knowing you can see the messages and calls..

I'm guessing this is why if you're trying to R, it's best not to reveal all your sources.. Seems to me that most waywards and their affair partners try to continue communicating after D-Day without the betrayed knowing..

And FWIW, I agree with Gonna. I don't go calling back unknown numbers. They can either leave me a message or not. Seems fishy to me.. I hope he's being honest with you..

And please don't have a revenge affair. If you want someone else, just tell your WH that and divorce him. Don't go sleeping with someone else just to piss him off. It's not healthy for you, and you can't just assume it won't hurt the person you have the affair with.. Stay true to yourself. If you aren't the type of person that would cheat, don't start being one now..

Junebug0525 posted 5/20/2014 10:30 AM

I have Verizon as well, but my boyfriend and I both have texting apps that offer encryption (I think ours is called textsecure or something like that). You can't see what's sent on Verizon. I don't check his phone (he's never given me reason to and we all know the signs now!) but I can't read his texts to me in the web app. I can only read the texts from an unencrypted phone. BUT, I imagine you could read incoming texts to him if they aren't encrypted. Just FYI, keep that in mind if all of a sudden you can't read it.

No12turn2 posted 5/20/2014 10:32 AM

Maybe it was the OBS??? If there is one