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I have noticed a crazy little trend in my life the last year. One of my coworkers is my 2nd cousin on my mother's side. Another coworker shares the same first and maiden name as I have, she is most certainly a cousin on my father's side. The Director of my agency is my xWH's cousin. My accounting teacher worked for years with my Dad and one of the girls in my class, sits next to me, works with my little brother.
Today I took the day off to have my advising appointment for college and create a plan for the next 2 quarters. As I am waiting outside the advisors office. Another student walks by, I know her. She had once been married to xWH's coworker and they were our friends. When xWH started messing around with OWiftress, there were some rumors around year 2 or 3 of false R that xWH was also seeing this OW2. He adamantly denied, said he was just giving her advice about her now XH. Rumors persisted and he became very defensive and even came to me stating that she was going to try to contact me and she, of course, was crazy,
We talked a little today, she admitted that they were an item briefly, she broke it off when she found out that he and I were still very much married. For some reason, I respect that. I don't know if they slept together or not. Don't care, it really doesn't matter at this point.
What matters is what I already knew: we are all connected in some way and the truth, my friends, loves to come out. It hates being buried and will always find a way into the light.

Amen to that! I'm a big believer that the truth will always come out, if not in this life then the next.

I was told is Sunday School that, "God is always watching" (okay a little creepy), but we should live our lives as if every moment were public. In this day and age of CCTV, satelite serveillance, and electronic snooping, that is even more true. There is really no such thing as privacy anymore.

Don't you love the validations that come later and announce your gut was right!

The truth always seeks light.

AMEN!
I truly believe that also..

The validation doesn't mean anything. I don't feel righteous, vindicated or angry. I don't feel anything but sorry for her. I know, that is weird. She certainly knew of me and what he once meant to me. Somehow I know that she was used by him when she was vulnerable and yet she had the strength and courage to end it when she discovered that he was lying. It's odd, I always knew that I would see her again and find some more truth.