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saddad97 posted 5/20/2014 13:31 PM

Trying to deal with my wife of 17 years having an online/sexting affair with a High School BF. Relationship went from early March to mid April, and was getting hot and heavy until I found texts and FB posts... lots of dirty talk and pics exchanged. They tried to do this once before about 8 years ago, but I caught them early, and it never evolved into anything.
I know affair was non-physical he is stationed over seas.
Wife wants to reconcile, she has dropped all contact (as far as I know) and is very apologetic, she was booted out of the house for a bit and says this was a wake up call for her.

Right now I'm feeling really confused, she has been very sincere and honest (again, as far as I can tell) so I let her move back in to our home, and I'm now starting to question whether I was ready for that. I know that if I made her move out again it would crush her, but I also know it's not about her process, it's about mine...ugh, just tired and pissed.... and hoping this gets better

toby posted 5/20/2014 13:56 PM

A few questions.

Is she being transparent?
Has she offered you all her passwords to all her online accounts? Her phone?
Has she sent a no-contact letter that you have read?
What is she doing to make sure she doesn't cheat again?
Does she blame you for the affair?
Does she have a job?
Is the OM married/girlfriend?

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