So I own two houses in this town -- the marital home I love and ended up getting in the divorce settlement and the current house I'm living in that I purchased when I moved back from taking care of my father at the end of his life.
When I moved away to be with Dad in 2012, my Ex was just about done with the lease on the house he'd rented when we split up in 2011. As a favor to me, he agreed to move back into the marital home and watch over it for me. As a result I didn't have to get a property management company involved or start vetting tenants, etc.
It was also me doing him a favor because his rent to me is half what he was paying on the lease that was almost up, he obviously knows the house and the area, and there's a ton of storage for all his crap. So at the time, it seemed like a win-win. The idea was for that to go on for a year, although I did not make him sign a lease.
Because my father's condition worsened so much faster than anyone thought it would, I was "free" to move back to town almost 6 months earlier than that one-year span Ex and I had discussed. That's how I came to buy my second/current house. And even though it's not perfect, I promised myself and my IC that I would give it a year before making any further decisions, thinking I might end up liking the current place more.
I've been in the current house for 1.5 years now, Ex has been in (what I still consider to be) my home for 2+ years now, and I want my home back.
Ex has agreed but because he's unemployed and is therefore not going to easily find another comparable house to rent that he can afford or can pass a credit check on, we are talking about swapping -- I get my home back and he moves into my current house. He's not happy about it because the current place is smaller and has much less storage, but that's not really my concern. I think I've been more than fair and more than generous and it's now becoming stupid for me not to be living where I want to be.
My concern is the actual logistics of swapping the contents of the houses. I don't have nearly the amount of stuff HoarderEx does, but I do have 4 cats and a dog. In a traditional move, someone goes first then the next person can move in and so on. But since we're swapping, I almost don't know how to start. He doesn't have the finances to hire a moving co, so he will probably get friends with trucks help him out, which might take a longer span of time. I don't have any friends with trucks but I can afford a moving company.
So... first draft thought: I get the moving company to pack all my stuff onto their truck and park it somewhere safe for X number of days. I board the cats and dog. I stay either with my one friend or (if I want her to continue being my friend) I stay at a hotel. Ex uses the week to move his crap into my current house and hopefully leaves me enough time to clean the marital home before the moving company brings my truckload of stuff over and unloads it.
Is there any easier way that anyone can see of doing this? I almost wish Ex would surprise me with the news that he's landed a job near his gf's house in another state, because then he'd just be moving away and once he's gone I would have the luxury of taking my time and not having to board the pets. But I certainly can't count on that.
Sorry this is so long -- I wanted to try and present the background so the reason for swapping made some sense, although it's kind of a weird situation.