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Decree states xwh has parenting time EOW, and one evening per week. He rarely (as in four times in a year) exercises his right to the mid-week evening. I received a text from him today that he has “just been informed” he needs to work this weekend (his parenting time).
In the past, when I’ve received messages such as this from xwh I either kept the boys myself (I cherish my time with them), or (in one instance) told him (truthfully) that I too needed to work. In the latter case, he managed to miraculously switch his work schedule to parent the kids. He’s also, in the 11 months since our split, requested alterations on several occasions to the parenting schedule, which I have accommodated. I’ve requested one alteration, which xwh accommodated.
I should add that things have been somewhat amicable since the split and divorce, and of course I’d like to keep it that way.
I should add, the boys (ages 12-SN, and 7) have never had a sitter other than my mother.
This weekend, for a variety of reasons, I need a break from my boys. Any suggestions on how I may word my response so as to not poke the beast, without stating that I need a break from my own kids?

Decree states xwh has parenting time EOW, and one evening per week.  He rarely (as in four times in a year) exercises his right to the mid-week evening.  I received a text from him today that he has “just been informed” he needs to work this weekend (his parenting time).
In the past, when I’ve received messages such as this from xwh I either kept the boys myself (I cherish my time with them), or (in one instance) told him (truthfully) that I too needed to work.  In the latter case, he managed to miraculously switch his work schedule to parent the kids.  He’s also, in the 11 months since our split, requested alterations on several occasions to the parenting schedule, which I have accommodated.  I’ve requested one alteration, which xwh accommodated.
I should add that things have been somewhat amicable since the split and divorce, and of course I’d like to keep it that way.
I should add, the boys (ages 12-SN, and 7) have never had a sitter other than my mother.
This weekend, for a variety of reasons, I need a break from my boys.  Any suggestions on how I may word my response so as to not poke the beast, without stating that I need a break from my own kids?

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