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User Topic: Response suggestions to xwh not exercising parenting time
stronger than he
♀ 31533
Member # 31533
Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Decree states xwh has parenting time EOW, and one evening per week. He rarely (as in four times in a year) exercises his right to the mid-week evening. I received a text from him today that he has “just been informed” he needs to work this weekend (his parenting time).
In the past, when I’ve received messages such as this from xwh I either kept the boys myself (I cherish my time with them), or (in one instance) told him (truthfully) that I too needed to work. In the latter case, he managed to miraculously switch his work schedule to parent the kids. He’s also, in the 11 months since our split, requested alterations on several occasions to the parenting schedule, which I have accommodated. I’ve requested one alteration, which xwh accommodated.
I should add that things have been somewhat amicable since the split and divorce, and of course I’d like to keep it that way.
I should add, the boys (ages 12-SN, and 7) have never had a sitter other than my mother.
This weekend, for a variety of reasons, I need a break from my boys. Any suggestions on how I may word my response so as to not poke the beast, without stating that I need a break from my own kids?

"The world is a stage, but the play is badly cast." - Oscar Wilde

Posts: 92 | Registered: Mar 2011
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Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I have other obligations this weekend. Please inform me of who will be watching the children"

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

Posts: 9596 | Registered: Apr 2008
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Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, go with what hexed said. It drives me nuts that they don't feel they need to put in the time with the kids, but get to show up at the big events to show what a good parent they are. Look how good they turned out! It wasn't because of you, dork!

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

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