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User Topic: Taking a Break
♂ 41347
Member # 41347
Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After MC today, I am going to take a break on the forums. The next thing we are supposed to do is sit down and talk to each others as friends and say what we want out a marriage...

Then we are supposed to go to the next session to decide if we are going to stay and work things out or not.

I gave up... I am checking out. Everyone, stay good and I will check on here once in a while. God Bless you, because God didn't bless me...

I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...

Posts: 1045 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
♀ 38377
Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good Luck LS. Maybe God is closing a door. Try looking for a window..

Sending strength..

xBW~ 37
Two DS~ 9 and 13

Posts: 3120 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I feel your pain. Sending you (((((hugs))))) and strength.

Don't lose hope, you will be fine, one way or another. One step at a time.

There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens

Posts: 266 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wishing you success and happiness in whatever path you choose LS. Don't be a stranger
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

Posts: 5738 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
♂ 37455
Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LS, Sending strength for your endeavors. I'll keep practicing the Batman dance for *that* day brother.

BH 53, WW 45
DS 25(Mine),SD 24,SS 23(Hers),DS 12 Ours, DGS 6, DGD 2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 5562 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
♂ 42012
Member # 42012
Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My thoughts are with you LS. But don't become a stranger. You're thoughts and opinions are respected around here.

Even if you let go of the outcome and move on, there are plenty of forums here for every aspect of your life. I for one respect the break, but come back when you feel up to it friend.


"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

Posts: 4487 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
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Default  Posted: 11:09 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As an oldtimer here, hence the name hehe, I certainly understand how overwhelming it is and a break is good for all of us. That said, it sounds like you may choose divorce and I would encourage you to supplement your support system with the folks in Divorce/Separation...where else can you find 24/7 friends going through it.

But more than that, divorce is a significant emotional event in that person's life. You just don't sign the papers and skip merrily off to the daisys. Well maybe for a day or so until the divorce parties die down. But there are a lot of stages to process, not just the divorce but afterwards. A good piece of dating advice is don't date anyone until they've had their papers for a year, so that gives you an idea of the recuperation time. That and then you're still processing the infidelity. You need to do some personal work to make sure you don't fall into the same kind of a relationship a second time.

So take care during your break, take as little or as long as you need, we'll be here if needed.

“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”
― Maya Angelou

To save a marriage, you must be willing to lose the marriage.

Posts: 3420 | Registered: Oct 2003 | From: Sunny Arizona
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