Topic: Oh, it's my fault your life sucks now? (vent)
Member # 43015
| Posted: 5:40 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014|
I saw my sex addicted, narcissistic asshat of a STBXH and he actually blamed me because he is now sleeping on a blow up mattress in his friend's house because and I quote "I threw him out."
I kept my cool and ignored him otherwise I would have to figure out how to dispose of a body
But seriously how far up his ass must his head be to blame ME for "throwing him out" as the cause of his current living conditions while overlooking the fact that he HAD BEEN FUCKING STRANGERS AND HOOKERS FOR YEARS.
Clearly, I'm the problem.
Posts: 42 | Registered: Apr 2014
Member # 25898
| Posted: 5:54 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014|
Well you didn't really think it was his fault did you? Some faithful betrayed spouses just don't get it!
Me - 61
WH - 69
Married 38 years
DDay - 5/14/09
He's reconciled, I'm in limbo.
"Stuck in the middle with you"
Posts: 192 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Rocky Mountains
Member # 42372
| Posted: 6:00 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014|
Just when you think, okay they've hit bottom, they can always find a lower level!
And miles to go......
Posts: 1269 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Southeastern USA
Member # 32211
| Posted: 6:00 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014|
Well, it is your fault. Remember, he just accidentally tripped and fell into their vaginas. How can you not see that??!?! You meanie! Good for you for not spouting back at him with "ummm...maybe you should have thought the consequences through before you inserted your loser self into someone else's loser self Dufus!". Good for you! He wanted to engage you and it didn't work. He will stop eventually when he sees it won't work.
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
Posts: 921 | Registered: May 2011
Member # 40715
| Posted: 8:32 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014|
Seriously, he had to dig a hole to get that low!
FTG, crickets and let him wallow in his big steaming pile of secondary poo...poor ickle diddums...
There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Posts: 266 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 42581
| Posted: 6:42 AM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014|
I'm so glad you are strong enough to see it and know better. My heart sinks when I read a post from a BS and it's clear they are believing the shit sandwich being forced upon them. Good for you and keep it up!
Odds are, your ex's life is always going to be someone else's fault. Sounds fun.
Unremorseful for 3.5 years
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he can't meet them.
People change when staying the same becomes more painful than changing.
Posts: 5163 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
|I think I can|
Member # 17756
| Posted: 10:01 AM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014|
My answer to the accustion that you threw him out would be:
"I sure as shit did. And stay out!"
I'm not the winner, I'm the prize.
Posts: 9002 | Registered: Jan 2008
Member # 40996
| Posted: 12:12 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014|
Oh, I got that too. I didn't back down either. I actually think she gave up a lot that she could have fought for in court due to guilt. I guess that was a win, but I expect her to continue blaming me for how much her life sucks now. I will continue to politely remind her that this was her choice. No R was even considered and it's not my problem anymore.
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Posts: 534 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
Member # 15300
| Posted: 12:16 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014|
Know the feeling! My XSO blamed me for the business (we owned together) not doing as well after I left him and the business! No way were his years of screwing other women the cause of his misfortunes. Apparently I betrayed him by leaving. Oh, boy!
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 8402 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Member # 42421
| Posted: 12:25 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014|
I think they all have to have that victim's mentality to do what they did. He will move on to the next one he can blame for all that is wrong in his life.
I agree, good for you for not engaging, it had to be hard.
I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.
BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo
Posts: 544 | Registered: Feb 2014
Member # 40115
| Posted: 7:21 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014|
It's amazing the power we BSs have. We can make our WS sleep with other people, lose their jobs, and alienate their children Just for kicks, tomorrow I'm going to make Dipshit's auto insurance rates rise!
"Better not give in to it. It takes ten times as long to put yourself back together as it does to fall apart.”
― Suzanne Collins, Mockingjay
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Posts: 2867 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
Member # 42358
| Posted: 8:01 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014|
I don't advocate threatening violence because it could backfire on you, but it would've been pretty priceless to say "better the blowup mattress than a grave, which was the other option."
Posts: 34 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: forwardfromhere
Member # 36576
| Posted: 8:35 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014|
Just for kicks, tomorrow I'm going to make Dipshit's auto insurance rates rise!
wtf?? How insane does your life have to get that you want to polygraph your freaking HUSBAND. ~ OldCow18
It's hard to make a decision when you're too tired to hold on and too in love to let go. ~ unknown
Posts: 178 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 37997
| Posted: 1:08 AM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014|
Oh the poor guy - but I'm sure some hookers don't mind blow up beds.
As for "how far up his ass must his head be" - well obviously far enough up to lick his tonsils but not far enough to open his mouth and see daylight.
LTA 3.5 years
Posts: 89 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: uk
Member # 37933
| Posted: 1:28 AM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014|
Oh let me clarify this, because I see some of you are confused.
It's not that we forced them to cheat.
It's that are we so mean, so bad, so awful, that even after they apologized, and said sorry, and promised to stop and not do it again.... we STILL would not give them any more chances!!! Which isn't fair because, hello, we're supposed to be married!!!
Posts: 421 | Registered: Dec 2012
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