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User Topic: Still Struggle
♂ 8736
Member # 8736
Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, it has been years since I have been here but it is one place I feel safe.

I still struggle holding relationships together. Everything is still a red flag to me and I feel helpless. I fall in love so quickly looking for comfort then panic sets in.

Therapy has helped but I have so far to go.

Jut want others to know it can remain a struggle for years after and please do not beat yourself up if you slip up.

My only regret is the people I have hurt along the way.

Thanks for letting me express myself for a bit and best of luck to all of the survivors here.

Then I heard the voice of the Lord say, "Who shall I send? And who will go for us?"
And I said, "Here I am. Send me."

Posts: 528 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Crossville, TN
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Default  Posted: 1:07 AM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for posting. I think I am in a relationship with signs of health but I also feel the alarm bells go off when we have a disagreement. I can go from love and comfort to fear quickly. I do have a foundation of trust so I think that keeps me from being reactive and bouncing off the walls.

You are not helpless. You can get clear on your needs in relationships, practice communicating them in a respectful way, observing the response and deciding to stay or leave if the actions and words together do not meet your needs. I imagine your counselor a are helping you with that. I had to see therapists, do group therapy and later a relationship coach to get myself ona healthier path.

You are worth doing this important work. It will also have a positive effect on others as you progress. Good luck!

BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

Posts: 6244 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Just want others to know it can remain a struggle for years after and please do not beat yourself up if you slip up.

Amen! It's a journey; you will get there!

Sit. Feast on your life.

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