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craig2001 posted 5/20/2014 23:01 PM

I give up on CNN! What a ridiculous article.

http://www.cnn.com/2014/05/20/living/stronger-marriage-with-affairs-redbook-relate/index.html?hpt=hp_t3

purplejacket4 posted 5/20/2014 23:09 PM

Wow. That is just sickening.

nomistakeaboutit posted 5/20/2014 23:17 PM

I read the article. Actually, all I could stomach was skimming it. Several things struck me as unusual. 1. I thought it was odd that it was just presented as another news item, versus being relegated to some opinion/editorial section 2. I wondered who would make a decision to run this piece this way. 3. It was 7 pages long on my iPad. Most of their articles are only a couple of pages.

It probably fits nicely under the category of "The end of civilization as we know it."

[This message edited by nomistakeaboutit at 11:17 PM, May 20th (Tuesday)]

Chicky posted 5/20/2014 23:37 PM

OMG! I saw this earlier today and meant to post it but got wrapped up in reality TV (Yea Max & Meryl!!! Booo Ramona...)

Totally disgusted!

[This message edited by Chicky at 11:37 PM, May 20th (Tuesday)]

Credence posted 5/21/2014 03:18 AM

A more fitting title would have been "Too many affairs makes you stupid"

These two selfish and entitled people are living in a perpetual affair fog but one day the fog will lift and it will all come crashing down. I just feel for the kids.

UKgirl posted 5/21/2014 03:32 AM

Interesting that it was the man who cheated in the 10 couples featured in the "couples who weathered public affairs" photos. Do couples in the public eye not stay together if it was the woman who cheated? Or is it that men in the public eye are more likely to cheat?

And yet the article is about a woman having affairs. And it sounds as though she is on this treadmill and feels unable to get off. That she has been in this “open” marriage for so long, that she doesn’t dare change things in case the wheels fall off. What if she now wants monogamy and her husband doesn’t? She doesn’t even want to think about it because the consequences could be dire. It’s not the “spark” of an affair keeping the marriage alive, it’s a desperate need for her ego to be fed. She’s avoiding her shallowness. I see the whole article as one written by someone insecure, with an underlying sadness and who is generally unfulfilled in life.

Furious1 posted 5/21/2014 04:52 AM

It makes me feel sorry for the kids. Both parents travel a lot with their work. When they are home, one or both is going out with AP's or hooking up with ONS's. The only losers in the cake eating festival is the kids.

absolut posted 5/21/2014 05:41 AM

This is actually a Redbook article.

I really just skimmed it, it's just so awful.

Starting from the way she described their relationship, it sounds like she was just a booty call, they argued a lot, they somehow wound up living together....

Just the relationship without the cheating sounded pathetic. She also made it clear that she knew he was cheating, knew she couldn't stop him, so she started to also, and this is what keeps their marriage chugging along (oh, excuse me, "spark"). I guess it takes the edge off her seething resentment.

I like how at the end she basically says they're both 40 and she's not sure how much longer she can keep this up! I took that to mean she's not sure she can keep collecting lovers as easily as she did in her 20s and 30s. It's pretty sad she's even worried about that, but she chose this crummy marriage which provides no love or stability and is really more like dorm roommates.

RedRaven6500 posted 5/21/2014 06:22 AM

I saw this nasty piece of tripe floating around on my FB feed. I read the first paragraph and found something better to waste my time with. Totally agree with you UKgirl.

BtraydWife posted 5/21/2014 06:32 AM

I agree the article shows exactly what the author tries to deny. It's a complete train wreck.

However I was pleased it was published because I read the comments below and some of my faith in people was restored.

Overwhelmingly the commenters pointed out all her errors in judgment and misconceptions. They showed concern for the children involved and called her and her husband out for what they are doing. It was refreshing to read.

While knowing her bullshit filth was put out in a very public way and being concerned about the ramifications of that, I was relieved because almost all of the commenters stated in all their different ways how backwards and messed up this is. For giving people a chance to counter her messed up logic and for those comments to be available to anyone who reads the story-I am thankful.

BtraydWife posted 5/21/2014 06:36 AM

I need to add too that my WH is the one who told me about the article. He saw it while at work and clicked on it thinking it would be an article about how working to R after infidelity made a couple have a better, closer relationship but he was absolutely abhorred with what he read. And he came home to talk about it.

Yesterday it was a small link under the expensive divorce article. Today it's got it's own large photo and link. Wonder if the comments will remain as consistent?

[This message edited by BtraydWife at 6:38 AM, May 21st (Wednesday)]

OakStreet posted 5/21/2014 06:41 AM

Yeah, I was more than disturbed to find out how "Affairs are good" on the CNN feed. Doesn't feel so good to me!

And I agree with UKGirl about all the photos being of men who cheated. Personally, I hope my WH DOESN'T see this article.

StillGoing posted 5/21/2014 06:42 AM

It's just filler from a shitty rag written by a woman so insecure about herself and her relationship she had to inflate a one sentence concept into a long winded diatribe of justifications for rugsweeping.

eta:

Wow. I saw the comments and I'm kind of impressed.

[This message edited by StillGoing at 6:45 AM, May 21st (Wednesday)]

sisoon posted 5/21/2014 08:00 AM

Oh, I think this twit's As do make her M stronger.

The As keep her from actually thinking about her M. That keeps her from realizing how sick it is. That's the way her A's work.

The thing is: if she doesn't accept how sick her M is, she can't do anything to fix it. She's stuck herself in a life of pain and fear.

I hope she gets the courage to look at herself and her life before it all falls apart. And I hope her kids are strong enough to not be like their parents.

RomanticInnocenc posted 5/21/2014 08:27 AM

This article made me feel ill! Is this the world we live in now? It seems our world has become geared for quick gratification, easy sex, easy fantasy fulfilment. There are apps upon apps, websites designed for married people to hook up with other married people, Craigslist it just goes on. Sometimes I think it would just be easier to be alone. How do you compete with all that crap. Now we have misguided (at best) articles suggesting affairs have helped to keep a marriage together, when in fact there are just two selfish people living two selfish lives, inflicting God knows what kind of hurt on their children. What kind of person do you have to be to think that's good? I feel sad for the world my son has been brought into.

dead_inside posted 5/21/2014 09:18 AM

Those two people are parents of the year for sure.

And OF COURSE the author's name has been changed. That says it all right there.

little turtle posted 5/21/2014 10:30 AM

painpaingoaway posted 5/21/2014 10:43 AM

It's just filler from a shitty rag written by a woman so insecure about herself and her relationship she had to inflate a one sentence concept into a long winded diatribe of justifications for rugsweeping.

I feel so sorry for the kids. Kids don't need stupid insecure mothers.