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Had graduation party one of two this week with WH family, I wanted to go, celebrate with my niece, my SILs and in laws have still been friendly with me, yes they support their son and his story of not being in love, unhappy for years..which all may be true, but they know the A was not the way to communicate that with me, and disappointed he didn't try to address our issues. So it wasn't that awkward, I avoided WH mostly, a few group conversations, some kid stories from the day.

Anyway, saw him texting OP right there in the same area as all of his family, his kids, and me (not that I'm a concern anymore), but everyone else? I know who he was texting, but I'm sure if anyone asked, he would play it off as someone else. Only one sister knows he is communicating with OP again. His lies to himself, to his family, to me, to everyone makes me so amazed still - who is this person that I loved unconditionally? Heck, I still have love, but I'm slowly getting over him, know that reality is we are getting divorced, and that I have to find someway to work with this shell of a person as a co-parent the rest of our lives.

I pray everyday the kids will not be like him and that I can teach them to properly communicate if they have any issues to discuss with someone they love or care for. I know that will be a great reward, to see them become wonderful husbands and wives someday, and to treat them with respect and appreciation, something I did not get in the end.

His lies to himself, to his family, to me, to everyone makes me so amazed still - who is this person that I loved unconditionally?

I know what you mean. I just think about what it must be like to live in their heads when you have to lie to everyone about who you are and how you live your life if you want to be able to stand to look at yourself in the mirror.

Just don't look at him if you can help it. Otherwise his disrespect will drive you crazy and the trying to figure it out will wedge you further in loo loo land!

Acer: Ur gonna rock it raising those kids to be powerful people of integrity. U stay the course. It will pay off...