Backstory: My WS had an EA (allegedly) 4.5 years ago. I have found out soon after that he was also having little EAs with a few other women. We went to counseling and everything seemed to be ok. I found out 6 months ago that he was having another EA (again, allegedly a EA, not a PA). He seemed remorseful, but found out again that he was contacting women (at least 4) and hiding it on his work phone.
The first time, I wrote it off as middle aged crazy, the EA six months ago prompted me to tell him that if he didn't shape up, I would file for divorce (and he was very upset, made lots of excuses, was remorseful and promised to make changes). And now, here we are with yet more women.
I have been a wreck. Crying all the time because it has REALLY hit me that this man is a cold, backstabbing liar. Just a few weeks ago we were talking about how we would like to retire on an island and he would email me pictures from work of cool places and houses. We talked about our dreams for our future and the kids' future. And all the time, he has been carrying on with other women. This is a man that calls me several times a day at work and we talk all the time. I'm realizing that I REALLY REALLY have no idea who he is. He is so deceiving because he appears to be a nice, family-values kinda guy, but secretly he is a compulsive skirt chaser.
This morning while getting ready for work, I sort of shut down and was lost in space for about 15 minutes. I forgot to get my son up for school and lost all track of time. This never happens to me. Am I losing it? Has this happened to any of you?
Also, one more question. WS decided to "manscape" himself about 2 months ago. He said that we was doing it for me to make himself more attractive. Uh, I have never mentioned once that I find a shaved body more attractive. Was this for someone else?
[This message edited by houseofpain at 10:59 AM, May 22nd (Thursday)]
D-Day: 09/19/09
D-Day2: 10/19/13
D-Day3: 7/31/15 Sex with an ugly married Craiglist whore in my home (with my son in the house) DONE!
Me: 50
WS: 46
Blended family with 5 kids
Separated
Surprises, I feel now, are primarily a form of violence.