Madhatters - We have R'd.
My boundaries were tested today... in the supermarket of course! Seriously, what is it with waywards and supermarkets?!
I was in the chocolate aisle picking out some sweets (making cupcakes with the kids at the weekend) when this man browsing just down from me walks over and starts discussing a deal they had on some chocolate bars. Within thirty seconds he commented on my figure, 'you don't look like you're one for eating chocolate, you're lovely and slim' was the phrase he used
I didn't acknowledge his commet, I simply replied that I was picking sweets for my CHILDREN because my HUSBAND and I were going to be baking with them this weekend, I grabbed what I needed and moved away.
He followed me down the aisle chatting away about his kids, asking how old mine were, laughing about how he was probably old enough to be my father I ignored him and just said 'I really must go, my husband is waiting in the car.' That wasn't true but I wanted to get away.
Pre-A, I wouldn't have wanted to be rude and probably would have chatted with him. I would have put his feelings before my own and out of politeness I wouldn't have excused myself.
Today, I really didn't care about his feelings. I was uncomfortable with him talking to me and made it very clear. I surrounded myself with walls. It was easy!
Ok, so I realise it isn't a huge deal. That's what I should have been doing anyway, what I'm supposed to do. But it was a big step for me because before I started IC I had no boundaries at all, with anyone! But now I do and I can enforce them effectively and not give a flying fudge about the person who is trying to cross them
[This message edited by BrokenButTrying at 2:51 PM, May 22nd (Thursday)]
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.