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User Topic: Safe feels good
Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can I take a second to brag?

QS works with a couple designers. Tall, skinny, flawless skin, flat tummies, nice clothes...you know the drill. I *could* feel threatened by them. They have his number. They call, text, and email him many times a day about work. But I don't feel like I should watch my back. Why? Cause stuff like Friday happens.

He was at a job. The homeowner was throwing an explosive fit. One of the designers was there doing damage control and nearly failing. QS helped save her butt by somehow talking the homeowner off the ledge. The designer was shaking, fighting tears, and very upset. He told me later, "If it wasn't for boundaries, I might have been tempted to hug her. Looked like she could use one. She had a brutal day. I felt kinda bad for her." Then he swallowed *me* up in a hug.

That is my man. Yes he helped save a deal and talk a homeowner down, but he didn't cross personal boundaries and get all KISA.

I was so proud of him. It seems like such a little thing. But it was big to me. It reinforced my belief in us (not that it was lacking mind you.) and just made me feel, I dunno. Safe? Swoony? Maybe both?

He's a good one.


"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 7104 | Registered: Nov 2011
Wayflost
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! Congrats Aubrie and QS. You two are a real inspiration.


"Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly."

Posts: 707 | Registered: Dec 2013
BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awww you and QS are the best!

Thanks for sharing, I love hearing nice stuff from you two.


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters doing well in R.

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1303 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
Mrs Panda
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great AUbrie. It feels good to trust your partner.


Me-42 FWW Him-45BH
M 14 years. Reconciled.
DDay#1 Nov 2008
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Prior A from 2001)
"Those who believe in telekinetics, raise my hand." -Kurt Vonnegut

Posts: 2026 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The SouthEast
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Trust is earned when actions meet words. ---Chris Butler

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 5:15 AM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's a good one.

Well of course he is. I don't know why you'd expect less of a Cats fan.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 54223 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 5:51 AM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

love this post!


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Never be so focused on what you're looking for that you overlook the thing you actually find.”


Posts: 7465 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well of course he is. I don't know why you'd expect less of a Cats fan.
Figures you would find a way to get the Cats involved.

Thanks gang.


"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Posts: 3446 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
Skan
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your post gave me a warm glow inside!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 6079 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTG QS!!!😀


fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 23, 16, 11. 2 dogs.

I edit often to fix stuff ☺️

Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.


Posts: 1680 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
5454real
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Default  Posted: 12:51 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!

Gotta ask though. (You know I've always got a question)

"If it wasn't for boundaries, I might have been tempted to hug her. Looked like she could use one. She had a brutal day. I felt kinda bad for her."

That sounds like a whole lot of *words* for QS. Is that new?

Then he swallowed *me* up in a hug.

You sound comfortable with that.

Both, Huuuuge!!!


Good for you guys!

I'd grin some more, but that would just be redundant!

K, couldn't help it. Great post.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 21(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 3868 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:32 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's a FANTASTIC one.


"It is impossible to get a man to understand something if his livelihood depends on him not understanding." - Upton Sinclair

Posts: 23885 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AWESOME!!!!❤️

What a great feeling to begin a vacation with!!!! 😎


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 6468 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
20WrongsVs1
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like!


fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
Former motto: "Fake it till ya make it." Now: "You can't win if you don't play."

Posts: 1438 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Redneck land
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Also like.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15595 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Big yay!


You can call me NIK

"And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be."
- Sarah McMane


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