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User Topic: Reporter Looking for Technology Driven Affairs
Deeply Scared
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Target  Posted: 2:33 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is working on a print article for a large, well known magazine. Her main focus is affairs that started using technology (internet, internet porn, chat rooms, apps, gaming).

She would also like to talk with members that used technology to help discover their partner's affair. Key logging software, VAR's, tracking apps, etc.

She's very, very nice...I felt like I was talking to an old friend She's more than willing to keep you anonymous.

If anyone is interested, please PM me and I'll pass along her contact information


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 199167 | Registered: May 2002
SoTired011114
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Member # 43014
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm kind of new here. I would talk to her. My husband started his A using a mobile app.


Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 3 years, together 6
DDay: 1/11/2014- internet/phone EA
Status: Giving it all we've got.

Posts: 47 | Registered: Apr 2014
emptiness2014
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Member # 43092
Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

By email or phone? I can't pm yet.


BS (me): 32
WH: 33
Married: Feb 3, 2007
Discovery: Mar 26, 2014
Child 1: May 27, 2009
Child 2: May 23, 2012

Posts: 72 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: canada
Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sent you both a PM


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 199167 | Registered: May 2002
1Faith
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Member # 38975
Wink  Posted: 5:00 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in. My FWH used FB IM, Hotmail IM, email and text. Happy to add some insight. Technology, IMO, makes affairs just that much easier.


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

Posts: 1336 | Registered: Apr 2013
1Faith
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Member # 38975
Wink  Posted: 5:00 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry, double post....

[This message edited by 1Faith at 5:01 PM, May 23rd (Friday)]


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

Posts: 1336 | Registered: Apr 2013
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crazz's started on work IM.

I'll ask him what he thinks tonight.


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18682 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1Faith...I sent you a PM

Thanks Jazzy!!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 199167 | Registered: May 2002
h0peless
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Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex had quite a few of those from what I can gather! I'm not sure how interesting it would be, though, and the one that brought me here started at work.

Posts: 1850 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
Scubadoo
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not sure how tecnical Facebook is. That is where my WH started his. If you need more FB info PM me.


BS (me) 42
WS (him) 48
OW (downgrade) 48
Married 11 yrs
DS 9
DD 8
D-day 10/27/13
8mth

Posts: 106 | Registered: Apr 2014
MinorBee
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My Ex's last affair didn't start with technology, but it's continuance was dependent on technology.

More than one of his EA's were carried on entirely through technology, as were some of his wanderings into 'alternative lifestyles'...and then there was the porn


previously married for 20 years
DDays: which time?, OW's which one?

Posts: 457 | Registered: Jan 2008
BreatheAgain10
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My fWH's last A began with an advertisement for a chat site on his old school Sprint Mobile phone menu.
I used to see that same stupid menu option whenever I looked up the weather or news on that old primitive 3G network. I NEVER was tempted to click on that chat link


By God's blessing we've survived, but the scars are still tender to the touch.
BW: Me 34yrs FWH: 29yrs
Latest D-Day 04/29/2010
Together: 12yrs Married: 10yrs
DS:16yrs DS:9yrs. DS:Due 6/25/14
Main D-Day that hurts is #4 4/29/10
OW=Yuck!

Posts: 273 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Sunny So. Cal.
No12turn2
♂ 40996
Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex was the Queen of cyber affairs


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
RedRaven6500
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Default  Posted: 3:36 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would be interested in helping. My fWH had to use FB, Yahoo Chat, Skype, Classmates/Reunion sites and email (both private and work accounts) to keep his affairs going, since the A's all took place back in the states while we were living 6000 miles away in a forgein country. Then, whenever he traveled back to the states for work, he would take advantage of his time there to visit "family and friends". If any of it can be useful or helpful to her, I'd be willing.


BW: Me 42, WH: Him 42, Married: 22 years
DD: 21, DS: 20 both in college
DDay: 22 Oct 2011
Year PAs/EAs started: 2004, possibly 2003
OW: 3 serious long-distance PA/EA's, several casual PA's, some at the same time. Classy
In R

Posts: 132 | Registered: Jun 2013
MakingMyFuture
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have been benefitting from this forum for past year and a half without posting (thank you to all for your suggestions and help healing). Finally joined so I could reply to this thread.

Technology was at center of WH's infidelity, how I discovered and also core part of healing. Started with texting client (who was also my friend and got up to 1500/month) graduated to private email account, creating 'porn style' videos for each other and phone sex. Would have become physical in three weeks with planned trip when I discovered email (AP had moved great distance)

I have since through Google learned how to run software to recover deleted computer files, found /transferred VM that were still in the deleted folder, installed keylogger software, acquired access to online phone records and learned how to sync to his text messages from iCloud. I also have sporadically used a listening device with a phone chip installed which I can call to give me audio anywhere I Leave it. And finally, used social networking to find the AP's BH to inform him and provide evidence.

Technology crushed us (as he didn't associate it to our marriage at all and thought it was a harmless game) but has also has helped me stay strong in not allowing him to minimize the situation, helped me discover other problems, and also helped me restore trust that what I'm seeing now is the full picture.


When people show you who they really are, believe them - Maya Angelou

DDay 1 - 1/13, False Recovery Discovered more + Broken NC so DDay2= 7/14

9/9/14: filed for divorce

BW: 42 (me)
WH: 40 (him)
DD-10, DS-8


Posts: 127 | Registered: May 2014
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm game, sign me up please!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2556 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
brokeninhalf4034
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in. Phone text was the key for WH.


Me-BS 40
WS-38 LTA with co-worker
Together 10+ - Married almost 1 year (DDay is week before anniv)


"The desire to love someone always exceeds the desire to be loved by someone & that's exactly why we end up loving the person who doesn&


Posts: 78 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Brooklyn, NY
jendo
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fb messaging and Skype here.

Posts: 276 | Registered: Apr 2014
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trac-Fone started cheating with print porn and phone sex lines, then advanced as technology advanced. Leaving cyber breadcrumbs. He still denies most--but if his input is not necessary, I'd be interested, too

[This message edited by solus sto at 7:34 PM, May 26th (Monday)]


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 9142 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Swims
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Member # 30992
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, she is probably not interested in talking to me. The office hooker taught him how to text. I finally looked at his Blackberry.

Posts: 138 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: East Coast
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