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User Topic: Likely mOW sighting
cdnmommy
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had to take my son to an appointment this afternoon, and afterward as we were crossing the parking lot to a store a car was backing out. The colour and make were the same as MOW's car, and while that didn't catch my attention when I saw the car move I looked over and BAM - there she was.

Okay, I am pretty sure it was her. I was a little far away, and wasn't going to stare, so I kept walking. When DS and I got to the door of the store I glanced over to where she was pulling out of the parking lot and saw her looking at us. She was even farther away, so I still couldn't be sure, but I'd say I'm about 80%.

What was intriguing to me is how little emotion it raised in me. There was an initial "oh!" feeling of surprise, and curiosity, and then as soon as we walked through the door of the store, nothing. No anxiety, stress, or anger. No bad feelings. A little bit of "wonder what she's doing here at this time of day" but otherwise, nada.

I came home and told my H about it without any bad feelings. I just wish I could be certain that last 20% because I think it might be nice to know I was over that first time of running into her. Still, even a year ago this would have triggered something in me.

Happy MOW Friday!


Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
1 great kid.
Reconciling and healing

Posts: 1787 | Registered: Nov 2010
Skan
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs))) I'm glad that you were able to be so calm!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5221 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
titanfour
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Member # 26750
Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well for you it was 100%, right? Even if she wasn't there you know your reaction, which was AWESOME. You can't control who will be where, but take pride in the power YOU have to stay above the fray, and not have someone else get you rattled.

Also great that you were able to share this experience with your H!


ME: FBH
HER: FWW
many kids now, 1 then
DDAY: 1987

Reconciled; Sometimes still have hard days, but getting by. Still dealing with feelings I buried,but finally getting them out.


Posts: 265 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: USA
Restartting
♀ 32825
Member # 32825
Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What was intriguing to me is how little emotion it raised in me. There was an initial "oh!" feeling of surprise, and curiosity, and then as soon as we walked through the door of the store, nothing. No anxiety, stress, or anger. No bad feelings. A little bit of "wonder what she's doing here at this time of day" but otherwise, nada.


Same thing happened to me a year ago. Except I was 100% sure it was her. No emotion really except I was cattily pleased she wasn't looking so good. It was cathartic.


Me: BS 35
Him: FWS 43
DDay 7/1/2011
I'm sad there's a typo in my username. I write on my ipad and edit for typos.

Posts: 61 | Registered: Jul 2011
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