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cdnmommy posted 5/23/2014 17:55 PM

I had to take my son to an appointment this afternoon, and afterward as we were crossing the parking lot to a store a car was backing out. The colour and make were the same as MOW's car, and while that didn't catch my attention when I saw the car move I looked over and BAM - there she was.

Okay, I am pretty sure it was her. I was a little far away, and wasn't going to stare, so I kept walking. When DS and I got to the door of the store I glanced over to where she was pulling out of the parking lot and saw her looking at us. She was even farther away, so I still couldn't be sure, but I'd say I'm about 80%.

What was intriguing to me is how little emotion it raised in me. There was an initial "oh!" feeling of surprise, and curiosity, and then as soon as we walked through the door of the store, nothing. No anxiety, stress, or anger. No bad feelings. A little bit of "wonder what she's doing here at this time of day" but otherwise, nada.

I came home and told my H about it without any bad feelings. I just wish I could be certain that last 20% because I think it might be nice to know I was over that first time of running into her. Still, even a year ago this would have triggered something in me.

Happy MOW Friday!

Skan posted 5/23/2014 18:30 PM

(((hugs))) I'm glad that you were able to be so calm!

titanfour posted 5/23/2014 18:51 PM

Well for you it was 100%, right? Even if she wasn't there you know your reaction, which was AWESOME. You can't control who will be where, but take pride in the power YOU have to stay above the fray, and not have someone else get you rattled.

Also great that you were able to share this experience with your H!

Restartting posted 5/23/2014 20:02 PM

What was intriguing to me is how little emotion it raised in me. There was an initial "oh!" feeling of surprise, and curiosity, and then as soon as we walked through the door of the store, nothing. No anxiety, stress, or anger. No bad feelings. A little bit of "wonder what she's doing here at this time of day" but otherwise, nada.


Same thing happened to me a year ago. Except I was 100% sure it was her. No emotion really except I was cattily pleased she wasn't looking so good. It was cathartic.

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