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User Topic: I'm so tired...
♀ 38372
Member # 38372
Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have never been this sleepy other than when pregnant (which I am NOT) Everyday I'm wanting to take a nap and/or drink coffee in the afternoon. I've never been a regular coffee drinker.

I've been sleeping quite well and have been working out and eating as well. i think the emotional exhaustion is weighing on me physically. Which worries me as I have just begun this process. Maybe the adrenaline rush has worn off?

Just wondering if I'm the only one.

Me: BW (31)
Him: WH (32)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (rescheduled :/)
divorce final November 20, 2014

Posts: 157 | Registered: Feb 2013
♂ 39885
Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know. It's exhausting. I've never been much for coffee but I would drink diet coke like it was free. It's ok to rest. Naps can do wonders. Or meditation. Just a few minutes to calm the brain. Take care of yourself.

Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 799 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((hurtyetstrong)))) The emotional and mental stress is exhausting. It does get better, hon. Promise.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40161 | Registered: Aug 2011
♂ 42890
Member # 42890
Default  Posted: 3:05 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a 32 year old man without children, very active, run 8 miles a day, and have virtually no responsibilities other than myself. AND this whole ordeal puts me in a state of pure exhaustion on some days.

You have two children, one just 18 months old. And obviously a lot of responsibility. You are a champion just for getting up in the
Morning. I say take whatever chance you can to just sleep because you've earned it.

34 - BS - Divorced

Posts: 872 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Southern California
♂ 42858
Member # 42858
Default  Posted: 5:38 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with JustMe. You are a champion. Total exhaustion is normal is times of high stress. I am reading "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" by Susan Anderson. She describes in detail the chamical things going on in your brain during these times of great stress. Your brain is dumping massive chemicals to heighten awareness. This dumping can leave you exhausted.

I say nap whenever possible and allow your body time to recover.

I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
♀ 42868
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel the same way. So tired, and can't concentrate sometimes. It is a mixture of stress and depression for me. I have a high stress job, which doesn't help, but at least keeps me distracted.

Don't feel guilty for just taking it easy and pampering yourself. This takes a lot out of of you.

Me: BS
Married almost 20 years
2 year EA and 1 month PA
D-Day: 01/14/14
Separated and divorcing

Posts: 92 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: TX
♀ 20150
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It took a good couple of years to feel like I'd caught up on all the sleep I lost during the drama phase.

To no longer have days when I feel like my head is going to explode is just pure bliss.

Sleep is my new favourite drug. I hit the hay at 8:30 if I feel like it (I'm up just before 6:00 am most work days), and loooove sleeping in whenever possible.

Your body and brain take a beating, takes awhile to catch up. Indulge yourself.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20626 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Feeling the same, I'm sleeping more, but can't fall asleep easy, still wake up every night at 3 or 4 and stay awake for another hour sometimes. During the day, I lose focus quickly, can't motivate to get house cleaned and fixed for listing, can't hunt for jobs more than an hour. I actually felt more motivated a month or so ago. I was hitting exercise classes, making lunch dates with friends, taking time for myself. I think I'm borderline depression now and I no longer have the energy to get out of the house somedays. I've hit a "numb" point, I don't cry as much, I now know I can't "win" WH back so have let him go, and I constantly stress and think of divorce preparation.

D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids in middle school
Divorced 10/2014

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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel the same way as everyone here! For me it was like the initial trauma happened, with heightened awareness, not sleeping, not eating and lots of crying. Then things leveled off after a few months. Now, however, I'm in a sort of "numb" state and the motivation and concentration are a big problem. I don't feel like doing anything and I can't make decisions. I still feel sad sometimes but I don't really think "depressed" is the right word. However, I wonder if an anti-depressant would help me (and some of y'all too!) because a lot of these symptoms go along with being depressed. Trying to get in to see the doctor for some help so we'll see.

"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

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