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Reconciliation :
A kick into positive?

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 Sadjacey (original poster member #41655) posted at 3:31 AM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014

I'm doing it so hard at the moment. I think I was probably more positive about dealing with this just after DDay. Now I can't seem to kick myself into a positive frame - have you been able to do it? I really need tips if this marriage is going to make it.

Me: BS 61
WH: 61
Married 40 years
Together more than 40
Porn use known since 2005
DDay: 11.24.12 - found emails to prostitute,
Disclosure: TT for months. Still not sure whether I have it all.
DDay 2: 2.20 2013 phone, txt to same prostitute found

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jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 4:51 AM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014

that's the rollercoaster of emotions that all BS go thru. Hang on because it will get better and then worse etc for awhile

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.

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devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 1:13 PM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014

Hi. I am about a year ahead of you and while there are better times now they don't last very long before I get all consumed with everything again. Are you still going to IC, MC? Have you talked to your therapist about this? They have ways to help us cope. This roller coaster ride has been going on, for me, for 19 months now and isn't showing any signs of stopping in the near future. They say 3-5 years. Yep, I believe it. Problem is, you are now past the "shock" stage and into the WTF stage. Wish I could tell you tomorrow it will be better but.........

All I can tell you is that eventually the goo days will come more often and the horrible thoughts will slightly weaken. And everyday will get Infinitesimally better.

And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

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