1. Did u ever have sexual contact (fondling, oral, anal) with EA? 2. Did you ever meet up with EA partner outside of work? 3. Have you ever have sexual contact with any other woman besides wife or EA partner 4. Does wife know about all online sexual activity?
(((Jls0320)))
I'm so sorry. I'd be devastated.
Believe the polygraph. It's science. He can say whatever words he wants, he's still lying. Protect yourself. I'm so sorry.
((( Jls0320 )))
[This message edited by GabyBaby at 3:56 PM, May 25th (Sunday)]
XWH#1 (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs
DD(21), DS(19, PDD-NOS) 5 Furkids - 3 dogs, 2 cats
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Your character is what you do when you think no one is watching.
REEEEALLY REEEALLY REEEEEEEEALLY MAD!
Then ask yourself this one simple question:
What kind of narcissist, sociopathic creep fails a polygraph then jumps up and down in indignation demanding that he take another one?
The test is accurate. My guess is the guy has been a lying, cheating, manipulating pig for a very long time. Each time they lie or wiggle out of a close situatoin they grow more empowered in the belief they can make anyone believe anything. If he honestly believes he can convince you that a lie detector test is wrong because he is such a true and honest guy...then I would say he has been rewarded very often in the past with his ability to cover his ass
WARNING: A guy like this may resort to violence or bullying when his emotion fails to move you. Is there somewhere you can go stay for a week to get over the shock and gain some perspective?
This is real life now. There is no going back. I spent many years trying to find evidence tthat I was wrong about my asshat clown. Sadly all I found was evidence that I was right all along.
Once I finally allowed the truth to sink in...that my perfect husband was in reality a fake, a phoney...a joke who made me live the majority of my life as a lie...I got strong.
The anger helped me so much. It halped me do things that I had been too weak tto do in the past. You can not stick your head back into a hole because it could mean you getting infected with HIV or gonorrhea. You should be tested immediately. Try not to have any contact with him for a little while. This will all sink in then you can dust yourself off and start the long climb back up. You can do it. You WILL do it. WE will help you.
And did the examiner also ask some questions that would induce a deliberate lie to measure your husband's truthful vs. deceptive responses against? An example would be the examiner telling your husband to answer yes to a question asking if he is wearing a red shirt when he is clearly wearing a blue shirt. This gives the examiner a baseline for how deceptive answers look.
It is critical that the examiner asks control questions to measure against. If the examiner followed protocol for using control questions, then I would have to believe your husband is lying.
[This message edited by Tearsoflove at 4:25 PM, May 25th (Sunday)]
It happened. trust this it happened. As hard as it is to fathom it happened.
Keep telling yourself. It happened
When someone shows you who they are, believe them
me (WW/BS): 48 him: (BS/WH)52 4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”
"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"
He failed because he lied period....
Sending you strength and hugs!!
ME: 31 WBF: 27 Together 7 years 1 doggie DDay: June 24, 2013 IN R...
He probably had it in mind all along to say the test was wrong if it showed he was not being truthful.
"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you." -Walt Whitman
This is why I fear having my WH take one....
But now you know. I'm so sorry...
[This message edited by HurtinginSoCal at 1:00 AM, May 26th (Monday)]
