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We agreed to reconcile. We moved to another home. I am selling an old truck of MINE. I was cleaning it out and ran across an old card apologizing to her. First,why is it in my truck? Second,I always thought it was anonymous and cards are personal. Third,just WTF!! Even though we agreed on reconciliation this makes me want to throw in the towel. When he gets here we are going to have a serious talk. Has anyone else ran across something old and had to rethink things? I was recently diagnosed with Graves Disease,probably due to some of this mess,but I really don't need any extra stress. I am so tired of this whole thing. I want to either be married and happy or single and happy.I guess we've been doing well so far,but this card brings up a lot of old feelings.

(((WantinHappiness)))

It sounds like maybe he hasn't been completely honest about the nature of the A. Not unusual but extremely hurtful. Try to impress upon him how devastating any new information is after your mind has come to terms with what you already know to be the truth.

Around here we call it Trickle Truth. When you find out more information it sets you back, sometimes to square one. It's no fun and not fair.

I hope he can come to you and give you the truth you need to heal and to R the marriage.

Thank you,HardTimesLife. This new information has really set me back.I think I would like to take a break to evaluate how I really feel. I'm tired of playing this role.

Oh man, I can imagine just seeing anything that showed something personal, is like a kick in the stomach. I'm sorry you had to see it because you can't unsee it and now its burned in your brain. Salt in the wound