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User Topic: New beginnings, Old Stuff, Old feelings
♀ 40109
Member # 40109
Flame  Posted: 5:22 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We agreed to reconcile. We moved to another home. I am selling an old truck of MINE. I was cleaning it out and ran across an old card apologizing to her. First,why is it in my truck? Second,I always thought it was anonymous and cards are personal. Third,just WTF!! Even though we agreed on reconciliation this makes me want to throw in the towel. When he gets here we are going to have a serious talk. Has anyone else ran across something old and had to rethink things? I was recently diagnosed with Graves Disease,probably due to some of this mess,but I really don't need any extra stress. I am so tired of this whole thing. I want to either be married and happy or single and happy.I guess we've been doing well so far,but this card brings up a lot of old feelings.

Posts: 12 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: wantinhappiness
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


It sounds like maybe he hasn't been completely honest about the nature of the A. Not unusual but extremely hurtful. Try to impress upon him how devastating any new information is after your mind has come to terms with what you already know to be the truth.

Around here we call it Trickle Truth. When you find out more information it sets you back, sometimes to square one. It's no fun and not fair.

I hope he can come to you and give you the truth you need to heal and to R the marriage.

Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)

Posts: 6712 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Florida
♀ 40109
Member # 40109
Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you,HardTimesLife. This new information has really set me back.I think I would like to take a break to evaluate how I really feel. I'm tired of playing this role.

Posts: 12 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: wantinhappiness
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 3:39 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh man, I can imagine just seeing anything that showed something personal, is like a kick in the stomach. I'm sorry you had to see it because you can't unsee it and now its burned in your brain. Salt in the wound
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

Posts: 5738 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
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