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Mack9512 (original poster member #38619) posted at 4:38 AM on Monday, May 26th, 2014
Was the topic of our Church's sermon today. About having the ability to ask for someone to stand by you during a difficult time and how extremely difficult it is to do. At the end of the sermon the Rev. asked that every individual anonymously write down a major "loss" that he/she is dealing with and drop it into a basket. As everyone was filing out of the Church they were asked to take one of the "loses" that was dropped in the basket and pray for that person as a way to help them thru their loss. Both my fWH and I grabbed our 'loses' and did not look at them until we got home. When fWH looked at the loss that he choose he got upset because he picked his own. I asked him what his loss was and at first he didn't want to tell me but then he said that we have no secrets and he gave it to me to read. The major loss that he is dealing with is "the loss of my marriage's innocence because of my betrayal". I cried.
"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 4:46 AM on Monday, May 26th, 2014
I would say that he knows what he has done and the impact. I say that's a good thing
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
justinpaintoday ( member #42858) posted at 5:34 AM on Monday, May 26th, 2014
The Lord works in mysterious ways. Perhaps it was His way of blessing you.
I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.
RomanticInnocenc ( member #43041) posted at 7:02 AM on Monday, May 26th, 2014
Mack, that would suggest to me that he gets it. I hope he held you while you cried! We are all looking for signs that we are doing the right thing by giving someone we love another chance to prove they can love us in return. Maybe you and he just got yours! Hugs.
Me: BS 34 WH: 32 (theseseatsRtaken)
DS1: 3 DS2: 1 DS3: 2 months
T 13 years, M 5
DD1: 8/1/2014 DD2: 10/1/2014
"Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you!" H. Jackson Brown
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