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Was the topic of our Church's sermon today. About having the ability to ask for someone to stand by you during a difficult time and how extremely difficult it is to do. At the end of the sermon the Rev. asked that every individual anonymously write down a major "loss" that he/she is dealing with and drop it into a basket. As everyone was filing out of the Church they were asked to take one of the "loses" that was dropped in the basket and pray for that person as a way to help them thru their loss. Both my fWH and I grabbed our 'loses' and did not look at them until we got home. When fWH looked at the loss that he choose he got upset because he picked his own. I asked him what his loss was and at first he didn't want to tell me but then he said that we have no secrets and he gave it to me to read. The major loss that he is dealing with is "the loss of my marriage's innocence because of my betrayal". I cried.

I would say that he knows what he has done and the impact. I say that's a good thing

The Lord works in mysterious ways. Perhaps it was His way of blessing you.

Mack, that would suggest to me that he gets it. I hope he held you while you cried! We are all looking for signs that we are doing the right thing by giving someone we love another chance to prove they can love us in return. Maybe you and he just got yours! Hugs.