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User Topic: he is disgusted by me
♀ 43277
Member # 43277
Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last night he got out of bed last night and slept on the couch I asked him why this morning and he said he couldn't sleep next to me anymore because he was so disgusted. How do I change this. I am so desperate to fix my marriage im ready to do anything.I wish I could take it all back but I cheated and I ruined everything. I want his soul to have a calm to it.

In need of healing for my husband and I

Posts: 12 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: nw ohio
♀ 42111
Member # 42111
Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's really common for BS to be disgusted by their WS, after all, what we've done is disgusting, right?

YOU cannot change anything. Time can.

Give him time. Show him every day how much work you're putting into changing, fixing your shit. Let him process those feelings, ask him what he would like from you during those times. He will probably just need space, so give him it.

Don't try to control his feelings because they scare you.

Madhatters - We have R'd.

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.

Posts: 1363 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
♀ 36684
Member # 36684
Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What are you doing to fix you?

(It'll probably be a bit slow on here today)

FWS me 38 (recovering addict)
BS him 41 AFrayedKnot
Together 10 years
2 children

"Your secrets keep you sick"

Posts: 1168 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
♀ 37091
Member # 37091
Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Work on changing, let him see the work. Mine did the same thing. Would sleep on the couch because he couldn't bare to touch me. He eventually was able to again though. Be patient and understanding.

Posts: 3615 | Registered: Oct 2012
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