I am having a hard time deciding what to do about this. Since finding out about my affair my Bh has decided to say a big F you and start smoking pot on a continuous basis , no longer just recreational. He had pretty much quit then we started hanging out more at my girlfriends place and he got to know her husband. My Girlfriend has been a long time user and seriously addicted can't go anywhere. So my BH would have some there.
I found out after he found out about my affairs that he had been buying again and hiding it from me.
Now its a f you if I want to I will. He is becoming more dependent. he can't even drive anywhere without any more. If we are gone for awhile its pretty much the first thing he has to go do when he gets home. We had a disagreement and he had to go smoke.
He smokes the stuff like cigarettes. And I can't stand talking to him when he gets high, the smell repells me from him and it makes me see him as weak.
What I can see is that is probably sees me. for what I have done.
I feel bad that he thinks he needs to do this. Cause I guess I started it, yet, are we not the determining factors of our destiny and choices.
He has young children.
WE have young children. I don't want to be having to hide it . If my kids find out the reason for our arguments, then they will, I will also explain what I have done since then to keep them safe.
With all the addiction in my family and the problems it has caused in my life, I need to have people that want to be healthy,.
I don't know what to do about this.
I know I caused him to feel like he needs too, and yet how can allow it to happen.
Any help from BS and WS would be greatly appreciated