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MichelleRenee posted 5/27/2014 13:04 PM

I'm like a kid again. I met an amazing guy a couple weeks ago. He's actually somebody I had known as a teen, casual friend at best, but haven't spoken to in 20 yrs. We've only been on two dates and text quite often. But I seriously don't know how to "just date". I was a wife for so long so I think my urge is to jump into "coupledom" which logically I know will scare him away. So how do I do this? How many dates before we get serious? He's also childless so how do I slowly integrate my kids into things? He's been great about me turning down offers to hang out due to the kids but I also want to be fair with my time with him. I guess I just need any advice on dating again & dating somebody without kids. Thanks!

cmego posted 5/27/2014 17:55 PM

Most advice is to NOT introduce the kids very early. Let the relationship develop and your kids ARE your priority, you can't change that.

Most of the time, people say "coupledom" when it becomes intimate, but that is up to you both. That is my line, when sex starts, we are a couple. I have that discussion early, so the guy knows what to expect.

As a full-time single Mom, I have to schedule my dates well in advance and the guy just has to get used to that…it is what it is.

No12turn2 posted 5/28/2014 11:38 AM

I disagree that you no longer know how to date. I think you are finally armed with the experience and knowledge needed to know how to foster a relationship with another responsible human being.

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