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Gr8Lady posted 5/29/2014 23:04 PM

Many of us recall a song, smell that revives that memory so vividly. I am describing good memories.


How about the phrase that takes us back to bitch mode. I know some consider that a trigger.
Mine is. " she is just a kid and doesn't deserve drama". Mind you I caught the bitch in my home with my husband and the most absurd thing to me was all our family pix were on wall.

Recently I was told the same phrase about our granddauter by ex and a questionable decision she made . I was right back in the moment, yet I was dwelling on past. That phrase made me something I'm not round of.
I hate I am able to "go there". Embarrassing but I was right there 2 years ago reliving his affair.

Just hurts so much still. Thanks for listening to my rant/pain.

ThrownAwayTwice posted 5/29/2014 23:22 PM

Whenever he refers to our separation as a "breakup". It throws me right back to the night he texted me that he was choosing her.
I have told him this, and he has since made an effort to not refer to it as such anymore.

RightTrack posted 5/30/2014 00:20 AM

His use of the word "forever".

5454real posted 5/30/2014 00:27 AM

"I didn't intend to ....."

Maybe not square one so much anymore, but insta-trigger.

Lovedyoumore posted 5/30/2014 00:29 AM

Soul mate and love of my life

Melian40 posted 5/30/2014 02:47 AM

When he says "I don't remember"

UKgirl posted 5/30/2014 06:57 AM

When he calls anyone a liar. Or a cheat. I think the one that got me the most was when he was said a work colleague lacked any integrity because he cheated at golf!! And this same guy was “telling one thing to my face and then going behind my back and doing something else.” We were changing our broadband supplier, after talking to our existing one, he came off the phone and was seething. “I don’t like being lied to!!” Really?

Another is when he is away for work and tells me he is meeting a colleague/supplier/whoever for dinner and I’m straight back to wondering just how many times he said that when he was with honeytwat.

Losconang15 posted 5/30/2014 09:49 AM

"We are just friends" or anything along the lines of "just a friend". Makes my blood boil!

steadfast1973 posted 5/30/2014 09:56 AM

When he calls anyone a liar. Or a cheat.
YUP!

"I Love you more." Nah, motherfucker, you don't. He's gotten good at not saying that anymore.

Faithful w/Love posted 5/30/2014 10:31 AM

"Just friends"
"We are just don't have it anymore"
"It's for the best"
"I'm in a zone"

Almost anything he says is a trigger!

nutmegkitty posted 5/30/2014 10:46 AM

"We need to have a meeting."

That's what he said when he called me the day he found out OW was pregnant. I recall everything about that very second.

Ostrich80 posted 5/30/2014 10:46 AM

"It's not like that" ws response to every one of my statements about him having an A.

"My bad" that catchy little phrase is not allowed in my house, even my kids know not to say it. Ow said it to me when I confronted her by text, then ws who never said it before, summed up he was still in contact when he said it to me in casual conversation.

""Your so insecure and jealous" said to me by ws AND ow when int suspicions were confirmed.
Man I feel the anger setting in just by typing this.

Faithful w/Love posted 5/30/2014 10:51 AM

Oh I forgot
"Its not like that and Not what you think"
"Ill never be with that girl"
All these while he threw the A in my face.

sudra posted 5/30/2014 11:29 AM

"Soulmate" - because they thought they were. OW2 is the only woman my husband has said that to. Including me.

"Out of my league" - he thought she was, unlike me who was common enough to actually marry him.

"Friend" - their code word for each other in their facebook posts.

rachelc posted 5/30/2014 11:32 AM

"Im going to give it to God." - talking to OW2. Whatever.... you're on your third affair. Obviously YOU can't handle it.

craig2001 posted 5/30/2014 18:31 PM

Just get over it
I don't remember
I don't know

deena04 posted 5/30/2014 18:37 PM

I don't remember (well neither do I)
It wasn't about you (well I am suffering because of it) -and-
If we D, I'll have to get a one bedroom apt and sell all my stuff (too bad, should have thought of that)


These make my blood boil!

stunnedin12 posted 5/30/2014 18:42 PM

"Are you ever going to forget?" (um, NO)

For the life of me I can't pick out the exact phrase, but wh still will occassionally try to shift the blame to me. He always uses the same words. It doesn't work so well.

I'm more a places/dates kind of person.

lilacs40 posted 5/30/2014 19:12 PM

Last fall WH started telling DS6 to "make good choices" since he seemed to be getting in trouble at school. Funny thing is that was right about the time WH was starting his EA. Thankfully he doesn't say it anymore because if he did I think I'd punch him in the head.

Imissmyhusb posted 5/31/2014 15:46 PM

'It was just a lot of inappropriate conversation'

As if an EA is any less destructive than a PA ... And whats worse is i dont belv him abt there being no PA. So when i hear this phrase i feel like theres really a PA he is tryg to cover up

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