Here's my favorite quote about self pity:
"Self pity is one of the most destructive of defects; it will drain us of all positive energy. We focus on anything that isn't going our way and ignore all the beauty in our lives. With no real desire to improve our lives... we just keep going further and further down."
Wallowing in shame and self pity is Super destructive. It will ruin you, well it would have ruined me.
I was caught in a guilt-shame-self pity party that kept me mired in my completely self centered habits. For years. Most of my life.
It took some serious self awareness to break out of it. I had to look closely at myself, my coping mechanisms, my past, my defects, my foo, etc.
I had to break it all down and leave a lot of it behind.
I looked at it all the good, the bad and the ugly. Sorted, sifted, threw some out, kept some.
I'm a work in progress. It's slow and sometimes very painful, but ultimately very rewarding work.
Ditch the self pity. It will keep you where you are until you do.
I'm not a hypocrite. I'm a mother. One who will use those terrible moments in my life to train my children. That's not hypocrisy. That's responsibility.
BINGO!!!!FWS me 37 (recovering addict)
BS him 40 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
"Your secrets keep you sick"