Me: BGF (49)
So an ex of my WBF has tried to get him back ever since we started dating. It never worked. He cheated on me in other ways and with other people. Anyway, we've blocked her on his phone, facebook, and every other way possible. Even removed people from our lives who kept her as their friend. A year ago he sent a very nasty letter stating she needed to leave him alone and get on with her life.
We discovered this week that she's continued to try and reach him, sending a message via text, the morning of his birthday. We found it on the ATT statement. We have her blocked via IOS7, but not through ATT directly. Don't know what she sent, just that she's still trying to reach him.
So we decided to tell her BF of almost two years. He was upset, surprised, and like so many of us, unsure of how to process it all.
When he confronted her, she sent more texts to my WBF. She's still blocked, so we don't know what was said, just that she sent them. I suppose she's a little pissed we ousted her.
So today, we are visiting with a good friend of my WBF. He tells us she contacted him and asked him to tell my WBF to quit messing with her life, and quit trying to disrupt it. A little more was said, but that was the basics. In other words she's trying to hurt my WBF and make this out like she's the innocent, to his friends.
I'm through the roof pissed!!!! I know he's doing the right thing. There is no way he's contacting her, or trying to reach her. That piece of shit got caught and is furious she can't play her games anymore. So now, because she knows my WBF will continue to report back to her BF whatever she sends, she's decided to cover her ass, and lie about my WBF. And trust me when I say, I know they are lies. I have all the records. I've sat here with my WBF and watched all this unfold. I was there when he sent the very nasty letter to her telling her to leave his alone. I've seen everything. He has no fears of me having his phone, and if he really had been doing anything, I'd be the first person she tried to contact. She has nothing, and she's guilty, so she's only going to hurt him where she thinks the people are able to be manipulated.
So what do we do???? How do we fix the damage she's doing by lying about my WBF? I'm not some young kid here. This is adult shit, and can seriously affect a person's image. I know the law can be contacted, but for that, we'd probably have to show a large amount of attempts by her. And since we don't have the actual texts, just that she sent them, she can lie about what was in them.
We could really use some advice...
Him: WBF (nogoodap1), cheater and SA
Together for 4 years.
Too many DDs to list, the last one 28 June 2016
Status: He chose his addiction, I chose to break up
*** Sex addiction is very real. I finally saw it first hand***