We discovered this week that she's continued to try and reach him, sending a message via text, the morning of his birthday. We found it on the ATT statement. We have her blocked via IOS7, but not through ATT directly. Don't know what she sent, just that she's still trying to reach him.
So we decided to tell her BF of almost two years. He was upset, surprised, and like so many of us, unsure of how to process it all.
When he confronted her, she sent more texts to my WBF. She's still blocked, so we don't know what was said, just that she sent them. I suppose she's a little pissed we ousted her.
So today, we are visiting with a good friend of my WBF. He tells us she contacted him and asked him to tell my WBF to quit messing with her life, and quit trying to disrupt it. A little more was said, but that was the basics. In other words she's trying to hurt my WBF and make this out like she's the innocent, to his friends.
I'm through the roof pissed!!!! I know he's doing the right thing. There is no way he's contacting her, or trying to reach her. That piece of shit got caught and is furious she can't play her games anymore. So now, because she knows my WBF will continue to report back to her BF whatever she sends, she's decided to cover her ass, and lie about my WBF. And trust me when I say, I know they are lies. I have all the records. I've sat here with my WBF and watched all this unfold. I was there when he sent the very nasty letter to her telling her to leave his alone. I've seen everything. He has no fears of me having his phone, and if he really had been doing anything, I'd be the first person she tried to contact. She has nothing, and she's guilty, so she's only going to hurt him where she thinks the people are able to be manipulated.
So what do we do???? How do we fix the damage she's doing by lying about my WBF? I'm not some young kid here. This is adult shit, and can seriously affect a person's image. I know the law can be contacted, but for that, we'd probably have to show a large amount of attempts by her. And since we don't have the actual texts, just that she sent them, she can lie about what was in them.
We could really use some advice...
But...all everyone says here is to remain quiet. I just don't know how, when she's lying to other people now...
Keeps you both arm's-length away and begins a paper trail. Says you mean business, too.
Hi there...just wanted to let you know your gf contacted our friend and said "x". We really don't want any contact with her, to the point that we will be taking legal action. Amy additional attempts of her to contact us, or defame us in any way with mutual acquaintances will be dealt with legally. Just wanted you to be aware so you aren't surprised when the legal dealings begin."
And then, if it still continues, follow through on your threat!
[This message edited by 918Mama at 4:19 PM, June 1st (Sunday)]
Hopeful reconciliation.
As for stopping her from spreading these lies to mutual friends, maybe the legal route really is the only way to go. We talked again with my WBF's friend this afternoon. We wanted to clarify what she said. And there was no doubt as to her lying.
I hadn't thought about passing along to her boyfriend that she's spreading these lies. I was worried it would look like we're out to "get her". I guess I never thought she'd be so stupid as to lie to his friends. We were trying to keep things quiet and only tell the BBF. In fact, my WBF has been very respectful of everything, and never went to mutual friends to say all that she'd been doing over the past two years. He knew they had mutual friends and we didn't want the drama of he said/she said.
So if you were the BBF, you'd want to know about her lying to the friends?
