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User Topic: OW left exWH.....
brokeninfl
♀ 21896
Member # 21896
Flame  Posted: 4:23 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, six years after their affair started, and one year since they got married, OW left my exWH.

Apparently, "marriage wasn't what she thought it would be" and for the latest, she apparently slept with some other guy while they were away for the weekend celebrating their one year anniversary. (I'm sure it wasn't the first)

He kept saying "you were right. You were right about everything)

He dropped the kids off, and when he got home she had packed all her stuff and she left.

I'm not crackling with glee about the whole thing like I thought I would be, but I'm not sad by any means. I just feels like the totally inevitable.

So, if your wondering if it will last - or if they are happy like they seem - chalk this one up for another example of - relationships built on affairs don't last.


"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.


Posts: 1074 | Registered: Dec 2008
evephoebe1
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Member # 36923
Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. He put all his eggs in the wrong basket, so to speak.


Me: Survivor! BS (47)
Him: WH (45)
2 awesome kids, 13 & 16

Posts: 92 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: evephoebe1
918Mama
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Member # 37756
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sitting on my hands and resisting all snarky comments BEGGING to get out of my head.

Some lessons in life SUCK! He just got a really incredible, sucky one. Hopefully his experience will be used for good and result in one less person shoving their head up their ass for lurvvve.

In the meantime, continue living your life well. It's truly the best revenge.

Raising my glass to you, BIF!


Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti

Posts: 600 | Registered: Dec 2012
betrayedpregnant
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Posts: 309 | Registered: May 2014 | From: Hawaii
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I find it very sad that he gave up all the good that he had, for this, for someone who didn't deserve one single ounce of the attention and time he gave to her. Some people just have to learn the hard way.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1815 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No big surprise that his schmoopie love unicorn died. How sad it took such a life-altering event before he learned a hard lesson that was completely avoidable.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3631 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The HELL you say!

Guess that saying, "if they'll do it WITH you, they'll do it TO you" has some merit after all, doesn't it?

Yeah, sorry but I can't cry for him either. My give-a-damn is broken.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1956 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
Losconang15
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So you're saying it took 6 years for Karma to pay him a visit? :)


Together - 14 years
Married - 7 years
DDay- Jan 15, 2014. WH had EA/PA

Hopeful reconciliation.


Posts: 84 | Registered: Feb 2014
BrighterFuture
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


We love karma stories!


Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.


Posts: 362 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Ohio
brokeninfl
♀ 21896
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hopefully his experience will be used for good and result in one less person shoving their head up their ass for lurvvve.

Stranger things have happened -so it's possible this will actually be a life lesson he takes seriously.


No big surprise that his schmoopie love unicorn died.

So true. I told a friend and she was like "they just got married" - but let's be honest here. Neither of them put a lot of stock in marital vows, so nope, not a shocker. Although I really thought having a baby would be what didn't them

So you're saying it took 6 years for Karma to pay him a visit? :)

Ha! Yes. Sometimes Karma is slow - but it's always satisfying. Although I do wish I had the for thought to record the conversation because I really would love to replay the "you were right about everything" part a couple 100 times.


"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He kept saying "you were right. You were right about everything."

Damn straight - I was right about you too.

I can't believe he's seeking comfort from you. I half expect the sad clown to tell me he now knows how I feel when OWUmpteen cheats on him. He is that dumb.

Odds are even as to who will cheat first but I'm rooting for it to be her. I hope they both waste a decade on each other before it implodes. Her her 20s and him his 40s. The end is inevitable, it would just be nice for my girls not to have 5 different schmoopie loves of his in their lives. As they say, 'Better the whore you know.'


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5734 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
brokeninfl
♀ 21896
Member # 21896
Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

'Better the whore you know"

OMG, I totally spit out my drink when I read that.

True enough (although I will forever intensely dislike this particular one since she tried to get my kids to call her mommy more then a year before he proposed. )

I have no doubt he will be with someone else soon (or perhaps back with her for a while if he can be convincing) He has finally admitted (which I've known all along) he's been afraid of being alone his whole life (FOO issues out the ass)


"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.


Posts: 1074 | Registered: Dec 2008
RidingHealingRd
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Member # 33867
Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why am I not shocked.

Why does this make me ?


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Nov 2011
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Poor muffin.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17796 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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