Seeing someone a little and she has a dog. She has no children. And much of her life revolves around guess what? She has to kennel it a lot just to do things....weekend trips, small overnight and long work days. I can't imagine what she spends on this. We are looking at going to the beach for four days spur of the moment decision (her idea) and she finds out the kennel she uses is full for the weekend. So she inquires if we can get a pet friendly rental on the beach. OK that eliminates about 96% of the places we can stay at. I don't mind the dog coming so much. But it won't be in my brand new car on a five hour drive...sorry but dogs do get car sick and they do have accidents without much warning. LOL
Frankly it all sounds really stressful to own one, especially if you are single. I'm just not a dog person. I like friends who have dogs. Yes they can be cute and kind. And I do understand how people love them. But I view them as a child you have to take care of that really never grows up.
[This message edited by SeanFLA at 8:39 AM, June 2nd (Monday)]
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley
However, in one of my previous jobs I traveled from Monday morning to Thursday evening. So, I fenced in my yard and got a dog door.
It was pricey, but it's the best decision ever. I don't have to worry about getting home at a certain time. Overnight trips require no extra effort. Trips that are more than a day , I just ask a family member to stop over and throw some food out for the gang.
Since there are 4 of them, they keep each other occupied.
It works for me.
Irresponsible dog owners are really scourges. Not cleaning up in public places, letting the dog bark incessantly right next door to you, , letting their dogs use your yard for pooping and peeing. *sigh* Dealing with this right now with our new neighbors and their two big rambunctious ill behaved dogs.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
I'm just not a dog person.
The good news for you is that you know it. The bad news is that you are not only NOT a dog person, you are, basically, an anti-dog person, and that means you probably shouldn't get involved with someone who owns dogs.
For a dog person, the complexity of dealing with long absences is a complication, not a burden.
My living situation hasn't allowed me to own a dog in a few years, and probably won't for a few more years. It's a hole in my life. A small one, but an absence I feel, when I think about it.
But I view them as a child you have to take care of that really never grows up.
you are, basically, an anti-dog person, and that means you probably shouldn't get involved with someone who owns dogs
Yup. I hope your 'sorta' girlfriend realizes this and walks away. You're definitely not a match.
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S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
The bad news is that you are not only NOT a dog person, you are, basically, an anti-dog person,
I'm not an anti-dog person. That's like telling someone because they don't have children that they are anti-children. Be really careful how you generalize that kind of statement. I've always thought about getting one, especially a retired greyhound possibly because I know they need a good home. But it just doesn't fit into my single life right now as I don't want it running my life. Doesn't mean that wouldn't change.
But sad truth is I knew when I posted this I would get those kind of comments.
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I met up with one though, a couple of years ago, on a sort of date that involved a walk at the dog park with his big beautiful hairy black friend.
Molly, a country dog, got completely freaked out at the kite sailors hanging off the cliff and ran off into traffic.
The guy went panting after her and ran for about a half mile yelling her name before finally catching up to her. He nearly had a heart attack from the run and the panic event.
Needless to say that was the end of the evening... I went home covered in hair and dog slobber.
If you travel with this woman's dog, expect the focus not to be on you.
[This message edited by FaithFool at 9:26 AM, June 2nd (Monday)]
It has nothing to do with your current lifestyle. You don't like them because they pee, poop, and yes, get carsick. They have to be cared for in some way, shape or form 24-hours a day.
Don't adopt a dog. You'll wind up giving it back. Dogs love unconditionally; the same can't be said for humans.
I'm not an anti-dog person.
That is the difference between the real dog people and the people who like dogs. The former view owning a dog as an honor and joy and the latter are people who will view it as a lot of work and/or constrictive.
That doesn't make us anti dogs, it makes us people aware of our limits. It is offensive for people to say that people are anti dog because we realize our limitations.
Also, I would encourage you to explain your feelings about this to this girl you've been seeing. She deserves to know now so she can make an informed decision whether to keep dating you or not.
I know it would be an important factor in my decision, given how much I love dogs.
Again, nothing wrong with you and nothing against you, but maybe you're just too different from her. Which isn't bad, as long as you don't hide it from her.
It is offensive for people to say that people are anti dog because we realize our limitations.
If you're not out shooting or poisoning them, you can't really wear the "anti-dog" label.
I'm more "anti-people-who-leave-dog-shit-bags-everywhere-but-in-the-trash".
[This message edited by FaithFool at 9:52 AM, June 2nd (Monday)]
I also choose not to have a dog for most of the same reasons you don't want one. I have noticed that society is more accepting that if you say you don't want children that does NOT make you a child hater. But for some reason if you say you don't want a dog, many will consider you an "anti-dog" person.
I cringe and cry when I hear of people mistreating their pets including dogs. I am NOT a dog hater even though I don't want the responsibility, the smell or the mess, or expense for that matter.
I actually sort of blew up at my sister recently because she has a poodle and every time she ever went to tell me anything about the Poodle, she started with "I know you don't like dogs, but...."
I think I have finally set her straight.
I am so sick of people deciding because I love the freedom of not having pets (especially now that my children are also grown and gone) that makes me a dog hater. At least my H understands. When we were first married 19 years ago, he pushed to get a dog and I pushed not to (and won). Now he absolutely feels the same way I do, probably even more so than me.
Sean, I don't have any advice for you but I do empathize with what you are saying about people automatically giving us the a negative label of being "anti-dog."
I'm the same way about boats, too OBP is my favorite make of boat.
I have a couple of pics on my OLD profile showing me playing with my friends' dogs and I clearly state "not mine but I love them anyway".
This weekend had a message from a creepy guy on OK Cupid saying
"I notice you have pics with you and dogs in them. How about I take one with you and mine?"
Doggie style innuendos'r'us.
[This message edited by FaithFool at 11:23 AM, June 2nd (Monday)]
In the wise words of Seinfeld - Not that there is anything wrong with that
I am however anti cat.
[This message edited by million pieces at 11:35 AM, June 2nd (Monday)]
As opposed to "anti-dog in all circumstances" or "anti-dog ownership for everyone" or "anti-dog ever around me".
The first is realism, and knowing what you want.
The second is not healthy, I think. Neither is the "everyone should have a dog" or "people who don't like dogs are terrible people" attitude.
I don't think you're in the second group, and I don't think the further discussion changes what I meant to say.