I am talking about things like kids clothing, or kids' copays, etc. How do you keep track of who pays what and then pay/reimburse as appropriate?
Medical costs and activity costs we split and we do a monthly roll up. She and I will often alternate them so that end of the month roll ups amounts tend to be small.
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All other expenses (daycare, school trips, sports etc.) will be split 50/50. For daycare, we will each write a cheque to the daycare directly for half the amount.
All other expenses, I will ask him for his portion up front, before I pay for whatever it is.
We both have benefits plans and we live in Canada so we have free healthcare, so everything medical related is pretty-much covered.
I did not, and XWH pays child support and that's it.
I paid marching band fees (495 per child), instrument lessons, prom tux rental, dinner, corsage, etc, and School yearbooks (65 and 40) last month.
I am VERY fortunate that XWH bought son an older truck and I insisted UP FRONT that XWH pay all gas, insurance, repairs, etc to vehicle as son's main job right now is SCHOOL.
I do not have that language in my decree and only receive child support and 1/2 medical expenses. Therefore, I pay 100% of my 3 kids' private school tuition, all activities, school fees, school supplies, summer camps, etc, etc. Everything.
I am a teacher. Ex is a corporate executive at a very large national retail chain.
So ... get as much as you can very specifically worded in your decree.