There is no way this shit will work. No. Way. He tries to bring up visitation at Friday's conference and I'm done. He complains to anyone who will listen that I'm fucking with the schedule and that I'm denying him visitation. Well then do something about it, asshole.
All he gets from me is unemotional, business polite answers. Good luck finding a weak spot to exploit in those, fucker. The more I quote the goddamned guidelines to him, the less likely he is to follow them. Because he's going to show me. He always thought he was such a cowboy...making his way in the world to his own beat...he always bragged to me when we were married about how nobody ever told him what to do...he always outsmarted people and got his way. Yeah, sure. And I was stupid enough once upon a time to believe it. There is no way I sit across the table from him on Friday and NOT radiate how utterly incompetent and pathetic I believe him to be.
It is what it is.
Stay on task Friday. You are there to talk about dumbass....I mean ex-shat....paying you the money that he owes you, and that is a totally SEPARATE issue from placement. Regardless of what either ex-shat or his L say......the response needs to be "so what is your plan to pay me the $<x> amount you owe me so that you can stay out of jail?"
.....and I *get* the irritation about him bitching about withholding visitation, although Monster's favorite go-to words are that I use the kids to *punish* him.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
There is no way I sit across the table from him on Friday and NOT radiate how utterly incompetent and pathetic I believe him to be.
Please think of us all sitting right behind you in that room emanating a FTG force field around you, whispering "arse cheese" in your ear. Try not to laugh though.
Do you have a mediator or just Ls? If you have a mediator they should keep it on track. You're there to talk about his contempt issue. You following the visitation guidelines is not up for discussion. Full.Stop.
He can bleat to anyone he likes. Ironically he is following the guidelines by not seeing Teslet when he doesn't follow the guidelines. No way to outsmart anyone there. It's in black and white whether he comprehends it or not. That is all.
I know you know it but I'll say it anyway - you've so got this. I'm just sorry you have to be in his presence. One step closer to money for you and/or jail for him.
Don't even bother losing sleep over that jagoff.
It's just a little sad that he's this stupid.
People see. They hear. Let him open his mouth and hang himself.
he stated some astronomical amount so I said..well then give me half that amount & come get it all..boy he shut up fast!
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I finally had my good lawyer the second time. My ex asked that we be split into separate rooms, which I wanted anyway. The first thing he did was send over a note through the mediator refusing the schedule I wanted, with him demanding 50/50 with OW watching them, so my lawyer said, "We are done," and we got up and left. Took 5 minutes.
We have a rule in our state that we *HAVE* to go to mediation before trial. So, we did, but it absolutely did not solve anything. We knew how delusional he was.. I actually ended up with more at trial than I was asking for in mediation. My ex is such a dumbass..
You probably realize already that ex-shat just needs to be taken to trial. He is SOOO fucking deluded, just let the judge deal with him and don't sweat this mediation.. Man I hope that FuckTard has to sleep on the cold concrete in jail a few nights..
I think when we do get this thing rescheduled, I'm going to let my lawyer know that if we do not have his information that there is no point to meeting to 'work things out.' The goal of this farce, by the way, is to settle on a new CS number due to my carrying Teslet on my health insurance and for ex-shat to offer a payment plan for the 2012 tax refund and the arrearage. (The payment plan idea is utter bullshit...) We are so ending up in court over this crap again.
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ― Pema Chödrön
How pathetic that he sees himself as some kind of "bad boy" because he's not paying HIS SON'S CHILD SUPPORT!!!
Ex-shat, you're not a cowboy. You're a cad. A manchild. An embarrassment. I wish that someone meaningful in his life with half a brain (so... not Stripper Whore) would tell him that a real man takes care of his children.
I'm sorry that you're now onto the next act in this Theater of the Absurd.
SH*T!
If you can't you just take deep breaths and remind yourself that he is just getting more rope. More rope. More rope.
FTG.
This guy is losing it. He of course texted again asking for a midweek visit tomorrow and then he says
And for future reference, the assumption that should be made is that Tuesday's are my mid week visitation day...should a Tuesday not work for ME, then I will exercise it on Wednesday.
Me
You may not assume either one day or another in a given week. However, I will assume Tuesdays as your midweek visitation day going forward. Should you not be able to exercise a given Tuesday, if you let me know the Sunday before, we an attempt to make alternate arrangements. As for tomorrow, less than 24 hours is too short of notice to schedule a visit as we have already made plans.
Jesus. Then he starts blowing up my phone. Him
Tomorrow is the beginning of summer break! He is mine for the month.
Today was his last day of school.
Stop playing games. You're using my son to hurt me and its bull shit.
You were informed in February that I wanted him in June. Just cause you want me out of his life doesn't entitle you to deny me my time with him. I will be there tomorrow to get him. please have him ready by 4
Sigh. Me
I only received 2 communications from you in the month of February. Neither mentioned what you reference. Since you did not elect your summer visitation, per the guidelines, I elected it for you and sent it to you by email on 3 April. I handed you a copy of that email on 16 April. As a reminder, that email said your visitation begins 6 June at 6 pm and goes through 6 July at 6 pm. I elected my midweek visitation days as Wednesdays from 2-7 pm and I assume your one regular weekend that falls on 20 June - 22 June. I will also call Teslet every other day at 8 p.m. unless you advise me of a more convenient time.
Him
His break is divided between us in two week increments or the month. It begins the day after his last day of school as per the guidelines. Not 2 days after. As your dispute is not that I get him the first half of summer then I will assume you misread the guidelines. I will pick him up tomorrow as is my right per the guidelines.
Ugh...and super-sigh. Me
What you are referencing is the guideline's definition of summer break, it is not the definition of a pick-up time. But if you feel I am still in error, refer it to your lawyer and should I have not interpreted this correctly, a day can always be added at the end.
No I have plans with him. Why would they define summer break if not to know the parameters by which you can divide it up. Stop playing your stupid games. You know I told you in February. You know what the guidelines say. You are being willfully obstructive just to satisfy your vindictive nature. I will pick him up tomorrow.
Him...again...cause I guess he had more to say
And why would you think that you get my weekend in June? As it happens we will be spending our weekends camping. this weekend Teslet will be traveling with his family to Illinois on a camping trip, I will forward you an address and specific dates. I will try to work around your weekend visitations, but you may not have mine as well.
Obviously I'm crickets with this douche. I'm going to drop an email to my lawyer...because this is ridiculous. And no one (including my pup) is going to be home tomorrow afternoon. At. All. This piece of shit is going to try to pull some sort of fuckery...his ass should have been in jail from the goddamn contempt charge months ago...if he had gone to jail maybe he wouldn't keep thinking that he can pull this shit. And what is this shit about going perpetual camping in Illinois...which is the opposite direction of where he was supposedly going to be working/camping/whatthefuckevering? Fuck this guy.
[This message edited by betrayedfriend at 10:02 PM, June 4th (Wednesday)]
