tushnurse.. has perfect advise.
I think we must realize that not all people are loving or loyal. It is a given in life.
If you so choose, I know there are men in this world that will love you the way every woman should be loved.
Let me share what a good quality man will do..
He will give you a heartfelt apology.. more than one.
He will not fear you, but try his best to be most open.
He will seek help on his own to figure out why his sexuality overtakes his soul.
He might seek refuge in a faith.
He will stand up and with firm conviction, take care of a human he brought into this world no matter the consequence you give him or not.
He will begin to change on his own, without your demands. Perhaps when looking at a consequence.
He will be there when you need him.
He will work harder at his job to support his child.
He will not run.
He will accept your anger as consequences, not in defensive, but feel the shame.
He will be remorseful.
He will be far more giving to you now.
He will work on his own behavior to discover ways to improve.
He will with intent be far more transparent.
If not, then you get ready to accept a not so quality man. Accept his bad behaviors while feeling ok with that. You cannot tell a man these things. He must want to be this man on his own. His ego and pride might stand in his way; you must see it and decide on your own if you want to be with this. You must love yourself no matter the decision. You can conflict by asking, but force never solves it. It will never be your choice to make.
Love always hopes. It does not mean he won’t change quickly, you decide when. It can be worth the risk. The risk is perhaps more pain. Pain can only be temporary depending on YOU. But true peace is within you and nobody else. A decision to change is always worth the risk. Ignore your fears and take a chance when you are ready. It can lead to a far better happiness.
A given in life… life does not always go according to plan. Everything changes and ends. How you decide to handle these will bring you happiness.
We all face these givens in life too.. you are not alone. We face it too.
[This message edited by trynhard at 3:46 PM, June 4th (Wednesday)]