I've been single now for a little over 2 years.....been on a few dates...most of which poofed after one (of which I thought were good dates..... ??)and a few oddball dates (went out with an older man and a younger guy - opposite ends of the spectrum and not really super attracted to either of them including the 25 year old but knew right away that they weren't for me and ended up 1st and last dates).
So....I think I'm just going to let the cards fall as they may. I have tried the online dating experience....and IMHO....it sucks bad for me. I get hit on by the very young, the very old, or the very horny. I'm pretty well sick of even looking anymore to see what's out there and I think I'm just going to leave it up to fate.....for me to trip or run into the man of my dreams. I think I'm starting to prefer being single.....and just enjoying my life with my daughter.
[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 12:17 PM, June 4th (Wednesday)]
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
I went to one last week for the first time. A friend and I did it together. It was an adventure.
Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.
Don't fuck with me, I fuck back.
Have you tried speed dating?
No.... That sounds kinda terrifying.... But, at least you can NEXT quickly if it gets too scary!!! I don't know if they offer that around here or not... I live in a middle sized city....
If you really thought you liked someone and felt a connection did you slip them your number real quick and hope at the end of the lottery you got picked?? How does it work?
[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:58 PM, June 4th (Wednesday)]
I'm just gonna stop trying, too. Forget it. If it happens, it happens.
Here's my plan. I'm gonna do what makes me happy. I have a dirt bike class this weekend, I'm going to my friend's daughter's recital, and going to events on facebook from friends and family. That's what I'm gonna do. Have some fun and see what happens...
Good luck sweetie. I know it's hard being alone...OLD kinda creeped me out. I felt so trashy displaying and trying to "sell" myself so to speak...But, that's just me. A LOT of people have great success with OLD, it just wasn't for me.
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 4:33 PM, June 4th (Wednesday)]
You talk to everyone, one at a time, for a short amount of time. Somewhere between 5-10 minutes. When the bell rings, you move on to the next one. You don't give out any personal information or say you'd like to see them again or not. You just move on. At the end of each conversation you check "yes" or "no" next to that persons name on your dating card and he does the same on his. At the end of the evening, everyone turns in their cards.
If you say "yes" to someone and they say "yes" to you, the speed dating coordinator will send your contact information to each other. If you both say no or only one person says "yes", no information is shared.
I agree, Shelly. I did not like OLD. I tried for two days. Got threesome offers, young men, old men, horney men,
Brandon808, 2 of my friends found their husbands via OLD. They bother are happily married for years.
I love mountain biking. I also love hanging out with mountain bikers - in general I find that groups of guys who ride together are there for the ride experience but are perfectly comfortable having an acutal conversation with other riders - including female riders. Since women are not super common it's not something they are "expecting" on their ride and you can have your boundaries and just focus on the ride before you flirt with any of them.
Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.
She11y, Leaving it up to fate sounds like a good plan.
Me too....I'm just EXHAUSTED from even trying and thinking about it. I just want things to happen naturally.....like God intended it to be....
I'm told I am attractive (without fishing for compliments).
I'm pleasant and, I think, approachable when I am out and about.
Nothing. I have not had a date in over two years.
I just don't understand. I'm not desperate. I'm happy with myself and do not mind spending time alone.
The speed dating thing sounds interesting.
And I am out there and not a hermit.
Prior gf met me at scuba class. Way more men than women.
In both cases, the women were smart enough to let me know they might be interested, yet weren't selling themselves to hard. No pressure
I think I have the "ick" factor.....or put off a "Go to hell" vibe that turns guys off. I'm not sure what it is....but no one ever.....and I do mean EVER approaches me and asks me out (in public). It just doesn't happen. I think being abducted by aliens would be more likely in my case.
This is totally me, except I think I give off a huge "F off" vibe, as you can see by my other thread about OLD.
Its so frustrating at times. I see the other single girls I work with out flirting it up and they seem to always be on dates with new guys. The men just fall at their feet. I wonder what I am doing wrong?? I'm no supermodel but I think I look pretty damned good for my age. People are always guessing my age at least 5-7 years younger than I am. Somehow though all I get are the weirdos. Oh well, at least being single I don't have to answer to anyone! There are benefits to this lonely lifestyle.
Ipad user sorry for any spelling errors or missing letters etc..... ty
however I've been single since 2010!! and I'm 43!!!! yep, pretty depressing....BUT I'm now teaching myself to love my life as a single, do what I want, and if fate sends someone my so be it...I'm not holding my breath.
I wasn't much of a dater before XH - only a couple of bf - and I've tried OLD for a year (!), I tried most sites, and am of the conclusion that I am not an attractive option....well, I think I am, but I'm not putting myself out there for this type of failure anymore...who needs the extra pressure in their life?? Not me..
Good luck She11y - you'll be fine
Divorcing - at last!
I'm not interested in a committed relationship right now though, for obvious reasons but I wouldn't mind hanging out with a group of people or casually dating.
I cannot see any hope in R, I am truly shattered.