Can you sue for contempt of court in Canada since he is in arrears on child support but can afford an $1,800 retainer.
Also I wouldn't go to a parenting mediator. I'd put more faith in a custodial evaluation. In my area this is performed by a licensed mental health professional that evaluates each parent and how the parent interacts with the children and then makes a recommendation based on WHAT IS BEST FOR THE CHILD. If you don't go this route of an evaluation then focus on WHAT IS BEST FOR THE CHILD in your talking points with your attorney or others. Irresponsible is right there as well as undependable just look at the Child Support which is money for the KIDS.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
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D-Day, June 10, 2012
Our mediator was very good. She took ex down a notch or two when he needed it. She would say, "Now, cmego, do you like the was ex is speaking to you right now?" I would reply, "No. I don't." She would then say, "I expect respectful communication in this room and if you are unable, we can suspend the meeting."
whipped his butt into shape.
Don't agree to anything you do not think is in the best interest of your children. Period.
Let HIM sit there and try and justify how the kids being with you, having dinner, doing homework, and THEN him picking them up to drive half an hour to go to bed, then up earlier than normal in the morning to come back to you to get to school on time is GOOD for them.
He won't be able to justify it benefiting the kids, other than he wants it because it gives him another overnight against CS. You know it. He knows it. The mediator should know it.
Sit there, quietly. Let him try and explain it in a way it will make sense. See what the mediator says.
Your answer at the end is, for 5 years they have been at my house on school nights, and they are well adjusted, doing well in school, etc., etc. I do not see how this change would give them any more time to actually spend with dad, it would just screw up their sleep on a school night. Then, walk out if there isn't anything useful to say.
The plus of mediation, is you can ALWAYS say no. Also, if you are afraid you might get talked into something, you can say I will have to think about that, and end the discussion.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.