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CantSeeInTheDark posted 6/5/2014 01:23 AM

I can't find any words

saveus posted 6/5/2014 01:36 AM

As you posted in my thread only days ago, you too have been heard. Sending you strength (((CSITD)))

yearsofpain25 posted 6/5/2014 05:39 AM

I'm so very sorry CSITD. Does this mean you gave WH the D papers?

More importantly how are you doing? I know this entire process has been very hard on you. Know this, you are not alone CSITD. We are here for you. When you feel up to it let us know how you are doing. Worried about you. I will be thinking of you today.

Sending you strength and courage to get you through.

yop

[This message edited by yearsofpain25 at 5:40 AM, June 5th (Thursday)]

OakStreet posted 6/5/2014 05:49 AM

((CSITD))

I'm thinking about you too!

NeverAgain2013 posted 6/5/2014 07:29 AM

Understood.

For what it's worth, I think you've made a very, very, very wise decision.

In time, you'll see that too.

Sending strength.

tushnurse posted 6/5/2014 16:01 PM

Cant - I hope you have or are finding the light.

You are an amazing person, who deserves so much more in life.

We are here, (((and strength)))

1Faith posted 6/5/2014 16:34 PM

(((hugs)))

Hold on to your son. Hold on to knowing that you deserve honesty and truth.

One step. One day at a time.

We are here for you.

Skan posted 6/6/2014 14:03 PM

(((hugs))) Just keep breathing. You will get through this. You will be happy again. We're all here for you. (((hugs)))

seethelight posted 6/6/2014 14:28 PM

I can't find any words

Me neither, but I and likely all the other posters know how you feel.

Sending hugs your way.

Raspberry posted 6/6/2014 17:16 PM

Thinking of you too. I literally just hung up with a divorce attorney because I'm going to end it too. Never ever wanted this but I cant keep living this way.

In time, you and I will realize its for the best. Hugs

krsplat posted 6/6/2014 17:17 PM

((CSITD)) I have no words for you either, but I'm sending you strength and courage. We're here for you.

HonoringVows posted 6/6/2014 17:52 PM

I always said it would be over too if anything like this happened. But I have held on for 4 years since finding out about his ONS with an "escort" (hooker, walking disease carrier, prostitute)...all the same in my book! We did find each other and love again, because I forgave. But then found out recently he called escorts again (he says just called them). I don't believe him. I want to...but can't and he won't give me access to the phone bill. I learned to live with him viewing porn, but it just evolved into perhaps wanting something more....like a gateway drug. Are your husband's incidents ONS or LTA? I think there is a difference... Good luck...have you tried counseling? I am not sure what I am going to do. Our youngest son just graduated last night...My incentive to hold our marriage together is not as strong now that our 3 kids are adults now. He says he wants to do counseling...we'll see where that leads us. I do believe in forgiveness...and I do believe in trying to work through the good, bad and ugly, but damn...one can only take so much! Hope you try all avenues before giving up on your marriage....I am trying to....

CantSeeInTheDark posted 6/12/2014 00:47 AM

I can't do this anymore.
I'm sorry.

betrayedpregnant posted 6/12/2014 01:05 AM

Hugs for you csitd

yearsofpain25 posted 6/12/2014 04:44 AM

Hope you are alright CSITD. Sending you strength courage and peace.

annb posted 6/12/2014 04:54 AM

CSITD, yes, you can do this. Yes, it is painful, yes you are devastated, but YES you do have a young child who needs you now more than ever.

You need to do the best you can to pull yourself together for the sake of your child. He does not deserve this and needs a stable parent who have his best interests at heart....

Lean on us, please lean on trusted family members or friends, I am not familiar with your story, but you WILL get through this!

Visit the divorce/separation forum and seek advice from members there. They have lived the same pain. They understand. They will guide you through this.

Don't give up, you have soooo much life left!

[This message edited by annb at 4:55 AM, June 12th (Thursday)]

saveus posted 6/12/2014 06:30 AM

You CAN do this, I have faith in you!!

((((CSITD))))

shiftingsand posted 6/12/2014 07:27 AM

You CAN DO THIS! It's ok to acknowledge that your soul has been rocked, you feel like every fiber of your being is screaming out no MORE! But, breath my dear, breath deeply, in and out, slowly, several times. Repeat. And say to yourself, I have brought life to this world. My child is my life bringer. I will not give up for my child."

If that doesn't work - I've always tried "Get your ass moving". Just get up. F WS, WS will not destroy me. WS is not worth it. F WS. until you find your anger to move again.

Do NOT GIVE UP! WE BELIEVE in YOU! WE know you did not deserve this! IT"S NOT YOU.... YOu have strength, you do... just breath, just for another minute, and then another...

just keep writting even it is.. I don't know what to say... just keep breath hun!