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cvs2kkids posted 6/5/2014 07:15 AM

After 6 months of half-assed R attempt and lies, I pulled the plug this week-end.

She's been getting more distant and pulling disappearing tricks. Due to working the night shift, she only sees DD a few minutes on work days and then on days off. On her off days, she's been going off with friends and not doing a thing around the house and paying no attention to DD.

This past week-end, she went completely off radar, to the point I filed a missing person's report. I then hacked her i-phone account, found an overly active number and called it. Yup, a man answered.

My next text to her was "We're through and I want you out now!!"

Not sad for me, but for DD (15) and DS (20). I told them the truth of whats happened. Why should I protect her careless mother!!

Now WW telling kids I knew we were only together for them (DS is 20) and that I was ok with her being with others (um, what ). I just said no to them and that I would NEVER, AND I MEAN NEVER allow that type of arrangement.

WW tried to justify to me and I laughed to her face.

Right now, she's not looking for much. Would like custody of DD but I'm going (try) to veto that till she gets her head out of her ass and can be reliable.

She also told then I was dating too (no). Like I said, not so sad for me. After 3-4 years of lunatic crap, relieved to be seeing the end.

Sadly, moving to the s/d forum.

May the Lord Bless and Keep me. Good support group of family and friends, so I will be fine.

[This message edited by cvs2kkids at 7:17 AM, June 5th (Thursday)]

Ostrich80 posted 6/5/2014 07:55 AM

Wow she's being really irresponsible and reckless. Disappearing at times and basically living a single life. Good for you for stepping away from the crazy. Good luck in your new journey. I really hope the kids stay with you. Who knows what she may bring home, DD needs a safe home and an available parent.

Branca posted 6/5/2014 21:43 PM

Wow is right.

I hope you will feel relief as you move forward towards a happier and healthier situation.

Sounds like there was no genuine R.

MakingMyFuture posted 6/5/2014 22:25 PM

Good for you. You can move forward confidant you did everything possible to make it work, but at some point you just have to say 'enough'!

Wishing you peace during these difficult times

Kiddingmyself posted 6/5/2014 22:55 PM

I hope the two of you can keep your children out of this. Take the high road. Don't stoop.to her level.

Skan posted 6/6/2014 15:21 PM

Just remember. At 15, your DD is entitled to speak up and let the court know where she wants to live. She might even be entitled to have a court-appointed representative. Please be sure to check it out because your STBXWW is not a fit guardian for her.