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 cvs2kkids (original poster member #41298) posted at 1:15 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2014

After 6 months of half-assed R attempt and lies, I pulled the plug this week-end.

She's been getting more distant and pulling disappearing tricks. Due to working the night shift, she only sees DD a few minutes on work days and then on days off. On her off days, she's been going off with friends and not doing a thing around the house and paying no attention to DD.

This past week-end, she went completely off radar, to the point I filed a missing person's report. I then hacked her i-phone account, found an overly active number and called it. Yup, a man answered.

My next text to her was "We're through and I want you out now!!"

Not sad for me, but for DD (15) and DS (20). I told them the truth of whats happened. Why should I protect her careless mother!!

Now WW telling kids I knew we were only together for them (DS is 20) and that I was ok with her being with others (um, what ). I just said no to them and that I would NEVER, AND I MEAN NEVER allow that type of arrangement.

WW tried to justify to me and I laughed to her face.

Right now, she's not looking for much. Would like custody of DD but I'm going (try) to veto that till she gets her head out of her ass and can be reliable.

She also told then I was dating too (no). Like I said, not so sad for me. After 3-4 years of lunatic crap, relieved to be seeing the end.

Sadly, moving to the s/d forum.

May the Lord Bless and Keep me. Good support group of family and friends, so I will be fine.

[This message edited by cvs2kkids at 7:17 AM, June 5th (Thursday)]

Philippians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your min

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Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 1:55 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2014

Wow she's being really irresponsible and reckless. Disappearing at times and basically living a single life. Good for you for stepping away from the crazy. Good luck in your new journey. I really hope the kids stay with you. Who knows what she may bring home, DD needs a safe home and an available parent.

BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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Branca ( member #42837) posted at 3:43 AM on Friday, June 6th, 2014

Wow is right.

I hope you will feel relief as you move forward towards a happier and healthier situation.

Sounds like there was no genuine R.

Me: BW, 39
Him: WH, 39
Married 15 years
2 children aged 11 and 8

DD #1 26 August 2013 - EA on FB and phone with a former flame OW#2 for about 8 months
DD #2 30 April 2014 - A lack of boundaries for 10 months in 2011 with OW#1

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MakingMyFuture ( member #43530) posted at 4:25 AM on Friday, June 6th, 2014

Good for you. You can move forward confidant you did everything possible to make it work, but at some point you just have to say 'enough'!

Wishing you peace during these difficult times

When people show you who they really are, believe them - Maya Angelou

BW: 43 (me) WH: 42 (him)
DD-13, DS-11
DDay 1 = 1/13, DDay2 = 7/14 (False R), D 4/15

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Kiddingmyself ( member #33013) posted at 4:55 AM on Friday, June 6th, 2014

I hope the two of you can keep your children out of this. Take the high road. Don't stoop.to her level.

WH on DDay 2: "I should just work and shut up. My happiness doesn't matter."

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Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:21 PM on Friday, June 6th, 2014

Just remember. At 15, your DD is entitled to speak up and let the court know where she wants to live. She might even be entitled to have a court-appointed representative. Please be sure to check it out because your STBXWW is not a fit guardian for her.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


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