Topic: First Post: Hello Fellow Thrivers
Member # 43475
| Posted: 3:41 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014|
I am not just surviving, I am thriving!
Darling hubby and I, married 21+ years, four amazing kids. First discovered his infidelity 9 years ago. Separated one year and after much work (on both sides!?) reunited. Followed by His many relapses over the last 8 years and new emotional affair discovered 9 months ago, have been separated since and pursuing divorce.
Ugh, this divorce rigmarole is crap! Have had a mediocre mediator and should be FINALLY receiving our mediation report next week! (Been three months meeting with this guy). Hoping to be finally nearing the end!
Marriage is "risky business"!
Him-no longer matters
Married 22 years
DD-20, DD-18, DS-16, DD-12
Rejoice in hope, persevere in tribulation, be devoted to prayer. Romans 12:12
Posts: 120 | Registered: May 2014 | From: Oregon
Member # 24961
| Posted: 7:39 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014|
Welcome RB. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but it sounds like you have a good attitude about it!
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Posts: 5749 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Member # 39169
| Posted: 7:45 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014|
Welcome RB! This is an awesome group and we are sorry you're here but glad to have you!
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
Posts: 678 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 33226
| Posted: 8:15 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014|
Welcome, RB! Nine years is a long time to be dealing with this crap. Glad you're nearing the end.
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28418 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 42858
| Posted: 8:19 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014|
RB: At first i read your post and was "wow" how can you seem d chipper. But realizing you have been battling for 9 tears at least, you are finally getting free from the prison of an unfaithful marriage.
I hope you will truly find peace and comfort in your new adventure. Welcome to SI
I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.
Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
Member # 33129
| Posted: 6:19 AM, June 6th (Friday), 2014|
Welcome Risky! I am glad you found us. I cannot imagine 9 years of that. Hope you get the report soon and finish with that part... It really drains you when it drags on and on!
divorced the Dooosh
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
Posts: 3633 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
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