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User Topic: Like a million bucks!
marlie2014
♀ 40981
Member # 40981
Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's how I've been feeling ever since the ex and I went to divorce court. Without even realizing I was doing it, I was losing weight (in a healthy way by making better food choices and working out, not because of stress) and suddenly clothes I hadn't worn in a while fit me again, and I got a few new ones besides. I started taking more time in the mornings to get ready for work and began wearing my high heels again.

Don't get me wrong -- I didn't "let myself go" while I was married -- but I definitely sank into a depression towards the end of the marriage when I didn't know what was wrong that caused me to dress in darker colors, get less sleep, and just not shine quite as brightly if you know what I mean.

Now, people are frequently commenting that I'm "glowing," or that they "like how I look today," etc. I've never thought of myself as beautiful, but it feels nice to keep getting all these compliments.

On Wednesday, I wore a new blouse that I found when I went shopping on Memorial Day. Three total strangers told me that day (two women, one man) that I had beautiful eyes...one of the ladies even said they were "blazing." And I had wondered if the blouse had been a good choice or not, but I'm definitely wearing it again, and soon! Ha ha

I didn't know where I could express these happy feelings, and then I realized that this was the perfect place for it. New beginnings, right?

I know I'm not ready to date yet, but all the same it's good to be alive and free and looking your best, isn't it?


BS: 34
WS: 36
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
2 OC, one 6 yrs old and the other a few months (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 214 | Registered: Oct 2013
fireproof
♀ 36126
Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you found your mojo back!

Posts: 1342 | Registered: Jul 2012
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have goose bumps from this post!

You look fabulous because your power is shining through. You are rocking the surviving part of this!!


Me: 45, independent, happy, despite parallel parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 14 DS 11
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 6351 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
persevere
♀ 31468
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a great post! You're inspiring marlie!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4967 | Registered: Mar 2011
marlie2014
♀ 40981
Member # 40981
Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks!
I feel kind of like this now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39YUXIKrOFk

LOL

No, but really, being free of the Rat is so liberating, it makes me want to strut!


BS: 34
WS: 36
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
2 OC, one 6 yrs old and the other a few months (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 214 | Registered: Oct 2013
norabird
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Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this! You're finding yourself again and realizing how beautiful she is, and others are responding to that.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4315 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

"And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be."
- Sarah McMane


Posts: 31297 | Registered: Aug 2011
EvenKeel
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Member # 24210
Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was one of the most surprising things during the D....was one day looking into the mirror and actually seeing someone I had not seen in a long time.

(Granted....I was not "blazing".... ...but I definitely know what you mean)


God didn't give you the strength to get back on your feet so that you can run back to the same things that knocked you down.

Posts: 2941 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
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