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LostSamurai posted 6/6/2014 22:58 PM

Should BS always ask for custody of BC (betrayed children)?

5454real posted 6/6/2014 23:26 PM

LS, loaded question with a lot of variables.

I fought for custody because WXW was CLEARLY not good mother material. Semi diagnosed Borderline PD. I had our MC, her IC lined up to testify to such(didn't need it, she *blew up * in court). Our Neighbors testified to her poor parenting skills. I had PI's to testify that she would drop the kids at her parents to go see the OM. Her own parents testified (And in their own words) that I was a *super* father. I had a 9-5 job, I offered *everything* in the way of physical assets for custody. I took college classes in childhood nutrition, early childhood development and to deal with XW, abnormal psych(really needed that one ) Had a parenting plan outlined, daycare and schools lined up. Almost two years, district court, appellate court and the supreme court, later, I had custody.(I won at every level) I also had blown through all of my lifes savings and added $50k to my debt. In short, it wasn't easy.

The courts will consider one thing in determining custody. The phrase *in the best interests of the child* when looking at custody. I will ask you(and this is a very hard question, please look outside your anger) Is she really a *bad* parent? Will your child truly *suffer* harm if she has 50/50 custody, which is the standard default ruling. One issue that will come up is that you have already *shown* you think she is competent. Your child currently *lives* with her correct? By default, her atty will argue that you think her parenting skills are sufficient.

Is this a battle you really feel needs to be fought, or is it punishment for her failure as a wife?

Strength brother.

Dreamboat posted 6/6/2014 23:27 PM

IMO, every parent should fight for their child. Unless you strongly feel that your child will be better off with the other parent, then fight for 50/50 at a minimum.

And LS, you need to find a Father's Rights L. Many jurisdictions are biased against fathers, so you need to get people on your side who know and understand how the courts operate in your jurisdiction.

LostSamurai posted 6/6/2014 23:45 PM

i was just asking. I prefer 50/50. she does a good job doing what a mother is supposed to do.