Kinda feel silly wearing a class ring from 20 years ago...but not wearing a wedding ring is very noticeable right now. And my class ring has always been beautiful to me.
Now to wait it out as I save up money over the next few years.
Did something happen today? I took my ring off right away because it was supposed to be a symbol of his vows to me. Never put it back on, either!
Do you really have to wait it out? Is the money really that necessary?
If you've had 4 years of him not doing what needs to be done and he's clearly only committed to himself, why oh why are you still there with him?
DD #1 26 August 2013 - EA on FB and phone with a former flame OW#2 for about 8 months
DD #2 30 April 2014 - EA/PA for 10 months in 2011 with OW#1
Hoping for R
I have think that, if you think you can be good or even great friends, you have a good foundation for a relationship. Maybe the hurt is still too much to bear, right now?
Is he a member here?
Just a suggestion so you'll know where you stand.,,,,,
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
I love my rings too...I feel I have the right to wear them, I've kept my promises. But I am actually loving my class ring that I put on! It's so pretty (I know that sounds really strange). No one has noticed, and I'm probably just going to say that I noticed something was loose on it if my teenage son says something. I'll say it is broken and needs to be fixed...somewhat true???
Thank you all for always being a constant comfort and encouraging word. I'm sorry we are all here, but I'm glad to have "met" you all!
Unfortunately it is common place to have to save (get ducks in a row) or let things fall into a better place financially before filing for D..Especially if one spouse was a stay at home spouse for years..Or if one expects the WS to be greedy and vindictive in the D..
My previously stay at home WH ( he has been working these past 6 months-- has no savings or pension) has nothing to offer me in a D.. So I think I need to wait until a better time to file..He is entitled to go after MY pension and 401 K...
Even though our situations are different, I feel the same way as you do..If I filed for D today, without looking at my life from a pragmatic point of view, I would ruin my future for some time to come... Right now my physical suffering would greatly outweigh the emotional peace and pride that I would feel in getting the D that I want..In two years time though, if my WH is still working, the tables will be turned a little more fairly in my favor..
Some of us have little to no choice.. We have to value pragmatism when we are making decisions that involve the quality of our lives and futures..
[This message edited by doggiediva at 11:23 AM, June 8th (Sunday)]
Some of us have little to no choice.. We have to value pragmatism when we are making decisions that involve the quality of our lives and futures