Don't know what I was worried about. BSC has shown time and time again that it could care less about my kids, and most likely about my exWH.
As an update to my "am I tough enough" post from last week, DD was performing yesterday at a huge event in a beautiful historical theatre. She's only 7 and this is the fourth time she's done it.
ExWH has never come before, but I think DD is finally old enough to where she asked and must have guilted him into coming to see her. He told me he was coming and I automatically thought that, because it was his visitation weekend and BSC's weekend with her kids too, that the whole lot of them would come to see DD perform. Anyway, that's what people involved in "blended" families usually do, right? Even if it's phony, they try to put on a show.
ExWH got a ticket at the last minute so he didn't sit anywhere near me. I know he was there because he made a point to text right before she went on stage and said something about the stage that he would only know if he was there.
So, he gets a little credit for physically being there, but he also left early. He didn't stick around to see her come out of the theatre, hug her and give her some flowers. That was the sweetest part and, as with everything else, I took care of it.
DD actually didn't believe that he was there since hundreds of other dads were out there at the end. I had to convince her he was and that he had to leave, but was excited to pick her up for the rest of the weekend once we got her home, changed and cleaned up.
In any event, exWH barely made an effort, I don't know why I would ever believe that BSC would make one ounce of effort toward them. For me, selfishly, I'm glad that bitch never comes around. But, I'm sure, on some level, her lack of caring confuses and upsets my kids and makes them wonder why their father would ever want to be involved with someone like that. Those two are a dysfunctional, disgusting mess and it will forever boggle my mind that he left an intact home and the mother of his children only to throw his children into a loveless, trashy pile of crap that no one in the world would ever believe is a family.