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User Topic: OW requests name stricken @ court?
FlySomeday
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ANyone?? Ok, posting for a dear SI friend here. So, to clarify... Has anyone had the OW or OM show up in court to testify against BS and then after the fact ask that their name be redacted or stricken from the records and documents?? (just cause she wants it and cause I guess there are some things she said/did that society might not think are appropriate). Yes, we are talking about a custody/divorce case...not a murder here. Just asking. ANyone??
-Fly.


Digging Deep in the Mud

Posts: 232 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Virginia
Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AP testifying against their own BS or against you?


Me 52
WH 52
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Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1611 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
FlySomeday
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW testifying against other BS (not me).


Digging Deep in the Mud

Posts: 232 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Virginia
Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did not know you could have it redacted. Why would she do that? If it is a spousal custody case, even with name stricken, her identity would be known. That really does not make sense.

I do have a friend whose XH showed up ready to testify, with documentation, that she had been unfit. My friend showed up with witnesses to his parenting failures and her PI who tracked the XH carrying on with OW in front of both their children. Guess who got total custody? He got three weeks each summer and one weekend a month.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1611 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The only reason the court will redact a witnesses name (they will never strike it) is if a) the witness is a minor or b) the witness has reason to fear for their safety (e.g. testifying against the mob or a very high profile case). This is rarely granted - a judge won't do it just because someone is embarrassed about screwing someone else's spouse.


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I doubt it!


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It is what it is.


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kg201
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I mentioned the OMs name when my X filed the restraining order, and I fought it in court. His BS believes that is why he is being denied a judgeship. I feel really bad about that one.


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FlySomeday
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG KG! Feel really bad too! Sounds like a nice dose of karma. What cha gonna do. No OM or OW should have a judgeship IMHO.


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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like it's time to take a full page ad out with her name and a transcript of her testimony. But I'm bitchy that way.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, the poor, poor OW has destroyed a family, and in doing so her despicable behavior will be part of the public record. Cry me a river, you stupid bee-yotch.


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Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I say Actions...meet Consequences!

I think both sides might have to agree to seal some records...never heard about redacting someone's name. Why didn't she think about that before she said what she said, anyway? If she didn't want the publicity, why didn't she just refuse to testify for her affair partner?? Seems kinda' dumb to me.


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