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BrighterFuture (original poster member #38914) posted at 12:48 AM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
I was demonized so he could appear good in the eyes of his family. Infidelity and betrayal hurts.
http://voices.yahoo.com/coping-infidelity-divorce-2956.html
Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
LifeIsBroken ( member #27071) posted at 1:21 AM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
Good article and information we all already know if we've been on SI for any length of time. But it's always nice to have 'back up.' My x did the same, even told the judge he had 'feared for his life' during the last 10 yrs of our M. Then my atty hauled out a couple dozen anniv and valentines day cards where x expressed his undying love for me…. The judge flat out told him, "Mr. x, I'm not buying that line so give it up.' Dummies.
D-Day: 8/28/2009
BW: 59 @ D-Day XH: 60 @ D-Day Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
Beyond terror is freedom. (Agnes Martin)
BrighterFuture (original poster member #38914) posted at 3:10 AM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
Hahahahaha!
I remember my dday was 2/24/13. I received more valentine's day gifts on February 14th than the OW who was still new in their fairytale romance. He said horrible things about me after I found out and kicked him out of course. I was a horror blah blah blah 
[This message edited by BrighterFuture at 9:12 PM, June 8th (Sunday)]
Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 3:21 AM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
It doesn't matter who leaves the marriage, the wife or the husband, the person left behind to deal with the betrayal experiences a hellish nightmare.
I appreciate this reminder. Dealing with infidelity is my "normal" and I forget it truly is a heartbreaking and hellish nightmare. The fact that I have survived and am starting my own journey is a reflection of my strength.
Remember that every parent earns his or her separate relationship with the children of the marriage. Children will ultimately process these events appropriately and make their own choices and come to their own conclusions based on their memories and moral beliefs.
Spot on.
Lost15 ( member #40898) posted at 4:12 AM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
They may say things such as, "I was forced into marrying you" or, "You've never loved me the way I needed to be loved" or, "I have lived in hell for 20 years." He/She will say anything as long as it will enable him/her to appear to have been the victim of the marriage and fully justified in abandoning the family.
I've heard all of this and more. It's hard hear these things from someone you trusted and loved with everything. Reading this article and many others like it have helped me to get through this horrific time. I know I'm not alone and I will get through this.
me(BS)-34 him(WS)-32 DS-15
Married 15 years
Blindsided with divorce 07-12-13
DD-08-1-13 OW-40ish,married 20 yrs, with 4 kids she abandoned
Divorcing and trying to move one tiny step forward at a time.
Divorced: Jan 27,2015 (Ds 16th BDay)He rem
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