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wildbananas posted 6/9/2014 00:04 AM

Tomorrow is the one month anniversary of our big move to another state! It feels like we've been here so much longer than that.

The bunch and I are all settling in our new home. The younger two bananas got to go to school for a whole week and a half because school here ended weeks before it did in our old town. Baby banana (11) absolutely adores her new school and already has made friends. She also loves the area. Middle banana (almost 15) is having a harder time but she's much better now than when we got here. Oldest girl banana (18) is looking for a job. She's a bit out of sorts with starting over (she's already out of high school) but is handling it pretty well.

I'm also finding my feet. Starting over at 46 is a lot harder than I thought it would be! Learning my new job (project management) is going to take a while... very long learning curve. I alternate between feeling confident and being scared out of my mind and missing my comfy bubble at my last job, one I knew inside out.

It's also been hard without my friends around here. I knew people here before we moved but not like my existing friendships, ones that took years to build. I know it'll all come - it just takes (all together now!) time.

Lastly, of course, my LDR is no longer LD... it's just an R. That took a bit of adapting. I was used to seeing him every four weeks or so (on average) and now, I literally see him every day and surprise... I actually like it. And so does he. We've both been very mindful of boundaries and so far, so good. Our kids cross paths a bit here and there (and all get along just fine) but we aren't playing happy families or anything like that. Neither of us want to go down that path for a while... if ever.

I'm also being very careful of not leaning on him too much or not making his life mine, you know? I know I need friends and activities of my own and I'm working on that, slowly but surely.

All in all, it's been hard and scary and sad... but it's also brought a lot of good. I know in my toes it was the right thing to do for me and the bunch and I don't regret it, even on the bad days.

Thanks for all the encouragement you guys gave me when I was thinking about this... and then when I was making it happen. We'll get there, one step at a time.

Bluebird26 posted 6/9/2014 01:12 AM

Glad it's all working out for you all. In time I am sure it will feel like you were never anywhere else.

Best of luck in your NB in new town.

Sad in AZ posted 6/9/2014 06:24 AM

Any change is scary; it's exponentially so when you have kids to worry about. I also understand about friends. I'm not good about making new friends, but you seem to have the personality for it.

I'm happy for you I hope you continue to grow and thrive in your new environment.

little turtle posted 6/9/2014 07:37 AM

Wow. A month already?!? That was fast. I'm glad to hear such a positive update!! Do the girls have any summer plans? Day activities or anything while you're at work? It sounds like things can't get any better than they are!

Williesmom posted 6/9/2014 07:43 AM

Woot! You're totally getting it done, girl!

better4me posted 6/9/2014 09:41 AM

Wonderful story about your new beginning Nanner! (and reading and thinking your topic title I was struck by what a difference this kind of "one month update" was from the kind we all posted in the way way back times when recovering from the shock. It's good to take a moment to realize just how far we have come!)

PurpleRose posted 6/9/2014 09:46 AM

You are doing it! Change is not easy, but your positive outlook will make everything ok! :)

MovingUpward posted 6/9/2014 09:58 AM

great update. Glad things are going so well.

GabyBaby posted 6/9/2014 10:30 AM

WB!!!
I'm so glad to hear that you and the Nana bunch are doing well.

FaithFool posted 6/9/2014 10:52 AM

cmego posted 6/9/2014 10:57 AM

This is awesome.

Can you do some volunteer work somewhere? PTA? That is how I try to keep my "friend options open" so I meet new people.

peridot posted 6/9/2014 12:06 PM

You are doing great!!! Congrats!!!

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