Foggy, I logged on half an hour ago and read your post and triggered so bad I had to walk away and have some coffee before I came back on to answer.
My ex did this to my daughter. Actually, the OW did. My daughters long platinum curls cut off above her ears. When she stepped out of the car after the weekend and I saw her I had the most visceral reaction. I truly felt like I had been punched in the gut. At six years old she had never had more than just the very ends of her hair trimmed. It was one of her most beautiful features and brought comments from strangers just about every day and everywhere we went. Anyone knows that once you cut off that "baby hair", the hair is never the same. After that the curls were gone and her hair was so much darker. He took away that feature from her much earlier than it should have been and he took away that special time between mothers and daughters. He allowed her to have that time with the home wrecking whore. Can you tell nearly 10 years later that I am still furious?
Of course, the poopsmear sloughed off my angry confrontation quoting that she was his daughter as well and he could give permission for the haircut just like I could. Nothing in our papers prevented that. However, it did stump him a little when I pointed out that I never would have made such a change to one of our children's physical appearance without consulting with him first.
I say we find that queef-breath, hold him down and shave him a reverse mohawk and Nair off just one of his eyebrows. Let him agonize about whether or not he wants to stay like that or break down and shave off the other one and let them grow back together. I truly hate him for you. I am so sorry.
[This message edited by debbysbaby at 9:42 AM, June 9th (Monday)]