If you don't feel like it. Don't do it. He certainly "gifted" you that right.
ETA - by "they" above I meant your WH. corrected
[This message edited by yearsofpain25 at 1:10 PM, June 13th (Friday)]
If the kids express wanting to do something for their dad I would gently say that it's a good idea to go along with their wishes - they don't deserve a drop of the heartache and confusion that this causes. Obviously this is in no way your fault, but I still think it's important to try and protect their little hearts as much as possible as we mitigate the fallout.
This doesn't mean you have to do a darned thing. I just mean that if they want to make a card or go to breakfast or something, I think it would be ok to let the kids have the day shape up the way they need it to, if that makes sense. You're doing it for them - you're offering them some kind of stability that your WH stole. I reiterate - this is only if THEY feel the need. Otherwise I'd be checking out what grandpa or uncle-awesome is up to on Sunday.
[This message edited by Jrazz at 12:57 PM, June 13th (Friday)]
Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.
My son is 4 now, and I'm happy to say that we share some pretty definitive physical features. Any doubt has gone completely. But I must say, Father's Day has been tainted ever since. I will spend the day with my children, and enjoy their company as always, but as far the wife and I go, any Father's Day notions on her part may just as well be forgotten.
DDay #1- 6/09 PA
DDay #2- 3/13 EA
Still riding the roller coaster of ambivalent limbo.