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User Topic: Hey, Ladies, Did You Know.......
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

that if we just learned how to give the most awesome hand jobs our WH's wouldn't commit adultery?

Yep, that is the e-email I got this morning from some marriage help site.

The site is promoting some dude's book. He contends that

90% of Men Who Have Affairs & Cheat Say They Were Not Truly Satisfied in Bed
and if we just learn how to give the best hand job ever, problem solved, no more adultery.

Okay.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10096 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Unagie
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's this comedian that ex listens to named Patrice Oneal who believed (he passed a few years ago) that men are not meant to be monogamous because its not in their nature but women (even women who cheat) truly want to only be with one man. We've had fights about this guy.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

"There are times when our reality is nothing but pain, and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind." Patrick Rothfuss


Posts: 2813 | Registered: Oct 2012
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really did enjoy Patrice Oneal. Very funny man, but I agree, when he would do a set on his theory of men not being monogamous, I would have to turn him off.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10096 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
need_hope
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

90% of Men Who Have Affairs & Cheat Say They Were Not Truly Satisfied in Bed

I could believe that the cheaters actually SAY that but, as we all know, cheaters lie.

Anyone want to take odds on whether the author is a poor sexually unsatisfied soul who had to cheat?


Me - happily single
Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10
DIVORCED 12/12

Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.


Posts: 1761 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast
jendo
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I heard a commercial on the radio yesterday for a local pricey steakhouse saying to have an affair, have a fling, fall hard for their restsurant. It was sleazy

Posts: 276 | Registered: Apr 2014
unfound
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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

well color me embarrassed... all that time and money wasted on IC when the real answer was SO. FREAKING. OBVIOUS.

*unfound goes and does some wrist strengthening exercises...


**face-palm


ka-mai
*******************
From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

Posts: 14877 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
lovehonorcherish
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...jeez, wish I had known!


I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change...I am changing the things I cannot accept.

Posts: 126 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Northeastern US
allusions
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah yes, The Golden Handjob. As elusive as Sasquatch and the Loch Ness Monster.

Posts: 316 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: California Central Coast
theroadahead
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Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gee, is that all it takes? Glad I'm in on the secret now.


Me: BW(46)
Him: WH (46)
D-Day #1 March 2002- 1 year EA then 4 month PA with co worker
D-Day #2 March 2012 - EA with different co-worker

It's funny how sometimes the people you'd take a bullet for,are the one behind th trigger.


Posts: 59 | Registered: May 2014 | From: New England
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, that explains the high level of marital satisfaction, and longevity of marriages among hookers, doesn't it!


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3868 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If only I had known!


Me: BW
Him: WH --Had 7 mo. PA with COW;
Married 20something years with kids
Trying to R

Posts: 1465 | Registered: Dec 2012
pjkmkjm23
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just went and looked at a bunch of pictures of elderly couples that have been married 50+ years who are still very happy together.

I didn't notice any extraordinary biceps on the women


Posts: 305 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Canada
TheIrishGirl
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They're all born with two hands, if all they want is a good tug why don't they stay single? And when they want a change of pace, just use the left...


Me: 31, BW Him: 38, WH
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email

Posts: 808 | Registered: May 2014
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hand jobs? That explains so much. I thought it was blowjobs. If only I'd known.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 9155 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
shatteredheart12
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad to find out "that" is why men stray, I better start practicing

Posts: 53 | Registered: May 2014
FoggedIn
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG Pjk...

I cried laughing so hard!


D-Day 1 8/8/13 :: WH was with prostitute, I found the physical evidence 24 hours later.
Much has happened since.
Not sure where we're at....... MC, IC, R'ish

Posts: 216 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Southwest US
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This poses an interesting question. If women need to get better at hand jobs to keep our husbands from straying, what do the men have to do to keep their wives from straying? Hmmmmmm.....


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
mike7
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, June 14th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

it's amazing the tripe that gets published. there's a female author, who had an affair and got divorced, and then wrote a book about "why women have affairs." Very little of it addresses the fact that unhappy women can do other things besides have affairs. These people don't understand that cheating is a problem that comes from within.

it's like writing a book about how to place products on a shelf so shoplifters won't shoplift. And then not mentioning anything that identifies that the problem is the shoplifter, not the product.


BH 53
WW 52
Two kids 21, 18

DDay 1/15/2013


Posts: 571 | Registered: Mar 2013
Gotmegood
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Default  Posted: 12:28 AM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And you know what really pisses me off about absurd theories like that? It just perpetuates the blame the victim mentality that pervades popular thinking.....seriously pisses me off


Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

Posts: 546 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Florida
mike7
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Default  Posted: 12:36 AM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yep, if she had just had more sex with me, i wouldn't have cheated. all the blame is on the victim. no responsibility to the cheater?


BH 53
WW 52
Two kids 21, 18

DDay 1/15/2013


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